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Lol!!!

 

I've considered writing one of those paperbacks for sometime now! Only when drunk though. When I sober up I cringe at the thought. Besides having no experience of Thailand life to speak of, apart from about six months here; I thought I could invent the fiction; else it might seem to be too realistic!

 

Kind of like a grubby, tell it all, melodrama kind of fiction. But that's all been done before, lol!

 

I read this awful book called 'Siam Smiles' about three times, I enjoyed it so much. Then I realised it was bad for my health.

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panadolsandwich,

 

Six months? You're almost over-qualified already - better get started! Those books are one of my guilty pleasures, I read them all, picking up the latest on my way out of Bangkok since I know I'll miss Thailand in a few days and enjoy reading some pulp about it. I'm also tempted to write my own adventures-in-Thailand, some thing like "What Western Women (and Men) Can Learn from the Alcoholic, Nocturnal, Drug-addicted Sweetheart Thai Hookers that YimSiam Has Loved"... problem is the book would be too sordid, I'd never live it down (my 3 recent trip reports are probably thinly disguised attempts at a couple chapters).

 

Getting back to topic: "Clean Your Pussy!" is the best advice thus far, to me. The Thai pussies I've known always taste like they're direct from the pussy factory - fresh and tasty, even though they're the farthest thing from fresh, in reality. The most recent farang pussy I had the misfortune to meet reminded me of the smell of rotting seaweed, a scent of salty decay... yech. Never going back.

 

Western women shuld learn to sniff-kiss - one of the most endearing of all Thai customs to me... though could they do it as gently, or is it genetic?

 

YimSiam

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panadolsandwich,

 

Six months? You're almost over-qualified already - better get started! Those books are one of my guilty pleasures, I read them all, picking up the latest on my way out of Bangkok since I know I'll miss Thailand in a few days and enjoy reading some pulp about it. I'm also tempted to write my own adventures-in-Thailand, some thing like "What Western Women (and Men) Can Learn from the Alcoholic, Nocturnal, Drug-addicted Sweetheart Thai Hookers that YimSiam Has Loved"... problem is the book would be too sordid, I'd never live it down (my 3 recent trip reports are probably thinly disguised attempts at a couple chapters).

 

Getting back to topic: "Clean Your Pussy!" is the best advice thus far, to me. The Thai pussies I've known always taste like they're direct from the pussy factory - fresh and tasty, even though they're the farthest thing from fresh, in reality. The most recent farang pussy I had the misfortune to meet reminded me of the smell of rotting seaweed, a scent of salty decay... yech. Never going back.

 

Western women shuld learn to sniff-kiss - one of the most endearing of all Thai customs to me... though could they do it as gently, or is it genetic?

 

YimSiam

 

 

Yeah, I know, I'm an addict of all those poorly written pulps that grace the shelves of Asiabooks. Many times, I've lamented the fact I can't read Thai for shit when the latest Thai copy of the men's magazine FHM costs about one sixth of the imported Australian version. - Still I buy the Thai one for the pictures though - cheap bastard I can be sometimes and besides it amuses the girls, when they flick through it. Got no clue if it's an accurate translation yet though - I always suspect the Thai's are taking the piss.

 

Yeah I've already written a few unpublished chapters already - this place does it to you doesn't it. sorry question mark not working...

 

Don't sniff my nose anymore at describing the sordid activities either.

 

My BG is very hygenic. Uses this stuff that's called Lactacyd; or something like that. Reckons I can use it on my equipment too. I tried it, but was worried she was bulshitting me and it would turn blue or something!

 

Don't ever mind my Australian girlfriend ever using that stuff. Maybe that's the difference.

 

 

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Simply?

 

Here is the run down.

 

1. Girlfriend number 1 was superb. She was a teacher, very smart, educated, a professional, who worked her ass off for about 15,000 baht a month in salary.

 

She was a long tall drink of water, classic Thai features, long glossy black hair. She had a great figure, though she may have been too skinny for some.

 

She was emotionally immature, but I could have dealt with this, and we could have grown together.

 

The girl was jai lan. Too much drama. I am too old to put up with this, and we were not a good match for other reasons. I ended it.

 

2. Girlfriend number 2 was a former lady singer, who bar none was the best girlfriend that I ever had. That said, she treated me like a customer for too long. That was strike one. Specifically, she lied to me about her two siblings, who were actually her two children. She came clean to me, but my trust in her was shattered. She came to me after EIGHT MONTHs of cohabitation. I gave her marks for coming to me herself with the deception, but after that...well, I understood why she lied. But I was still wounded.

 

There was more with this girl, but suffice it to say that in a weird way, she maneuvered me into ending the relationship. She knew that I did not love her, and for her, what I was offering her just was not adequate, and I do not mean financially. It was not enough that I just liked her a lot. Fair enough.

 

3. Girlfriend number 3 was the spendthrift. Other than that, she was great. Bar none, the best sex that I have ever had, and I mean ever. It was not enough. She was a bar girl. The only one that I ever hooked up with for a long period of time. She was a Soi 33 bar girl, but a bar girl nonetheless. It did not matter to me. When she was with me, she was with me. Good enough for me. I have been no angel in my own life.

 

I would give her 5,000 baht to take care of herself and my cat while I was away on business from anywhere from a week to ten days. This is not a lot of money, but all the bills were paid, and it was purely for HER to spend on herself while I was gone. For a Thai girl, it is enough. I watched to see what she did with this money. She spent it. Every satang. And on booze, pretty much. For herself and all her friends.

 

When the inevitable emergencies arose, she was broke. So she came to me. I handled emergency number one. Hospital bills for her father, who had a problem with his eyes. The next month, her mother had to pay back some loan that the TRT had championed in provincial villages. I paid that one, too, in both cases for about 15,000 baht, but that was it. I sent her packing after that.

 

Her allowance was 15,000 baht a month. I covered everything on top of that. New cell phone, gold baht necklace, clothes, shoes, an expensive birthday party, lots of going out and partying. Too much of that, frankly. The 15,000 baht was purely for herself, and for her family. I gave her additional money on top of this when I was traveling. I did not expect her to stay home and do nothing while I was gone. I did not mind that she went out. I did mind that she would spend 5,000 baht partying in one week, and when I came home, she would have 100 baht left. I did mind when she did not save any of it, and she did not buffer me from the demands of her family.

 

If she had come to me and said, "I have this emergency. I have saved 5,000 baht out of all the money that you have given me. Can I have some more?" I would have thought about it, said "sure," and we would have moved on. But she did not. She blew through money like there was no tomorrow, and my assessment of the situation was that it would not get better, there would be a new emergency every month, and frankly, she came up short in a brutal cost vs benefits analysis.

 

So, there have been three girlfriends. They were all great, in different ways. I regret the way that I handled the first girlfriend the most, and I still think about her at times. But I just need a cooler-headed girl who will not seek to manipulate me. This is just me.

 

I fully realize that the above will not display me in the best possible light. I have made some mistakes, and I have some regrets. But we did have very good times, myself and these three girls, and I do remember each of them fondly. With time, the things that made me separate from them fade, and I remember the good things, and the good times.

 

Since then, there has been a stable of girls. No live-in girlfriend. I plan to keep it that way.

 

They come over, they stay for a night, then they leave the next day. We take our time, and there is no rush, but they have their lives, and I have mine, and we keep things relatively simple.

 

There is sincere affection and caring with all of them. I try hard to take good care of them. But I also make no bones about the truth of the matter, which is that I am not good marriage material, I am not looking for a wife, and if they meet someone who meets their longrange needs better, I will be happy for them and do anything that I can to help them.

 

In the meantime, I take care of them, they take care of me, and you could probably best characterize the relationships with each of them as similar to that with a mia noi, except that there is no mia luang.

 

It works for me. I am content. I have feminine companionship every other night, I have space for myself, and things are fine, for now.

 

Do I sometimes feel nostalgic for a more permanent, deeper relationship? Absolutely. But I have to own my own flaws in character, and I have to admit that I am probably not the best man for a truly nice girl to marry. Just being honest about it, and I do not deceive them.

 

It works for me.

 

 

Are you really happy with this situation (question mark).

 

To go back to the OP; I would choose a Western girl over a Thai girl in a heart beat. My opinion, mind; I don't understand their culture, much as I (don't) try, I never will. I won't comprimise and see I don't see myself in circle 2, let alone circle 3, or even 5 the fuckers.

 

Trying to disengage from this BG right now. When it comes to women, I'll own up and say I'm a soft touch, but still - I have my pride.

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Yeah, I am ok with it for now.

 

I have been fortunate enough in life to have loved, and if I never love again, it will be ok.

 

I get accused of painting in broad strokes, and I think that it is warranted. But one other broad statement that I will make is valid, I think, and that is that women are women, no matter where you find them.

 

There are certainly downsides to Thai women. No doubt about it.

 

Speaking for myself, I find them easier to deal with than farang women.

 

You always assume that a Thai girl can play you, should she choose to do so. They are that good, in my experience. You never, as a defense, and I mean never, risk more than you can readily afford to lose.

 

I consider it akin to a form of gambling. If you cannot afford to drop a thousand bucks US at the tables, then you certainly should not be in the casino making bets of that magnitude.

 

Same thing with Thai girls. If you cannot afford to keep her, and her family, to help them, to elevate their standard of living somewhat, then you should be honest about that and consider that it may make more sense to just patronize bar girls or massage joints or Eden or whatever. Some girls will require much less, and be grateful for much less. Other girls will see you as a fleeting opportunity, and they will deftly take you for as much as they think that they can get. No matter how much you think that you love a girl, you should still never give her more than you can afford to lose. It is just smart business.

 

For the most part, I no longer worry about a girl taking advantage of me. I only give what makes sense for me. If it is not enough, then we should both move on, and I will continue to interview the next prospect. They are everywhere here, and I continue to meet very, very nice girls.

 

Where you get into trouble is when girls exploit natural, normal feelings of affection. A truly good girl will consider your assets to be joint assets, to be conserved and used for the benefit of the entire family, including you. An opportunist will consider your assets to be your assets, to be extracted from you as carefully as possible, within as much time as she thinks that she has, and for as long as she can maintain the relationship.

 

The worst relationships are those that are very transactional. The best relationships are those where the girl protects your income and your assets better than you do yourself.

 

That said, transactional relationships have their place in the scheme of things. Some of the best sex that I have enjoyed have come from those relationships. They do not last, but, then, nothing ever really does. Everything is transient.

 

I just try to have fun, I try to conduct myself honorably, and I try to take care of those around me. And I do not risk more than I can afford to lose.

 

There are worse ways to live, I think.

 

 

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I made the mistake of reading this book called 'thai fever'. or something like that.

 

To summarise it, well it basically says that if you want a long lasting relationship with a thai girl then hand over all your finances, wallet etc, not to the girl! But her family. Specifically your mother in law. She will decide how your money gets spent!

 

Be happy with this the message goes on; because mysteriously, somehow (they never really specify), you will be rewarded beyond any dreams you ever had! It may take any form they say. Well hocus pocus, fuck off I say.

 

Whilst the book is written by a pussy whipped American and this gloating Thai slut, I think I'll take their advise; and do the exact opposite.

 

Interestingly, I actually gained a fever after reading the book. Piece of shit it really is. Actually made me sick.

 

Anyhow, lot of crap pulp out there. Easy to be published, and sitting there for clueless punters to pony up 500 baht for the pleasure of being bulshitted to.

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