junglesoup Posted August 12, 2007 Report Share Posted August 12, 2007 Well, I just told my gf that I m HIV+ today. She was very shocked and upset. Alot of crying and a feeling of doom. But she is not resentful towards me...At first she said she would not go for the test...but I think I ve talked her around. Ironically, her reason for not wanting to test, is not because she might have HIV, but because she is worried that the people in the hospital will think she is a whore. She also wont tell anyoe. I said she should tell her best friend, for some support, but she doesnt want to. The reason being that of she doesnt have it she thinks her friends and family will tell her to stay away from me. The relationship isnt working anyway I feel. But she is very attached and cant accept that it hasnt been working. I m not even living in Thailand. Things are too complicated. But they are even more so now. I said I would support her and get her the best doctors. She also said she wont ever be able to get a good job, because the companies in Thailand test for HIV, and dont employ people with it. She also said that people in Thailand will look at her as if she is a disgusting person. It really seems that it is the stigma which she cant deal with. She said if she has it she doesnt want to live with it. Thai people seem very ignorant of it, and she even thinks that you can't drink after someone who has. I told her this was rubbish and wrong info, but she said thats what people in Thailand believe. Now this is the advice I m asking. Is there any support groups for Thai people living with this in Bangkok? Are there any good websites in Thai about HIV? I think she needs a support group if she does test positive. Do companies test you, and not give you a job if you are a poz person? She really needs to de stigmatise herself. I was thinking that an HIV specialist at one of the top hospitals could talk to her and give her the facts. I really hope she doesnt have it, but again, I ve got a feeling she does have it... Anything advice you guys can give me on this situation? Or anything extra you can think of that I havent mentioned? This is more stressful and worrying that me finding out about myself... What would you do? She really isnt angry with me, and says she loves me. She doesnt blame me... But I m at a lost on how to handle this... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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