Boomah Posted July 18, 2008 Report Share Posted July 18, 2008 Aloha all, Honestly I try to stay away from subject matter like this but gotta ask this oneâ?¦ I noticed any girl mentioned here (referring mostly to BGâ??s, Former BGâ??s, â??GTGâ?Â, just Thai women in general) get painted with a pretty broad brush. I must admit being a bit cynical when it comes to a relationship with a TG regardless of background thanks to many of the threads here. Itâ??s not a bad thing, I have been burned before and thanks to the threads here it was only a 1st degree burn, one I easily survived emotionally & financially. Hereâ??s the thing, now I often get involved with a nice lady always thinking it will fall apart at some point & her true colors will showâ?¦ I knew it all along! Then I take a break and get involved with another, very cyclic. Itâ??s become a safety net of sorts knowing Iâ??ll never have to commit because sheâ??ll be just like the rest. But what if sheâ??s notâ?¦ What if she really starts turning her life around??? What do you do then??? Donâ??t worry, Iâ??m pretty sure this isnâ??t going down â??The Highwayâ? yet and as far as I can tell Iâ??m not delusional either (Donâ??t worry OH). Iâ??m getting a lot of this gouge from friends that know the two of us. Donâ??t get me wrong, Iâ??d love to commit to this girl IF she turns out to be the real deal, I just wasnâ??t expecting her to actually accomplish a lot of what she said sheâ??d do. She doesnâ??t flaunt it either, itâ??s like sheâ??s on a mission, slow but steady progress. I imagine security has a pretty strong drive! I just havenâ??t figured out what to do when & if the day comes when she says â??Okay Iâ??ve done this, that, the other thingâ?¦ You gonna step up to the plate?â? I know the other cynics out there are going to have a field day, Iâ??m just wondering if any of you have found yourself in a similar situationâ?¦ Not looking for answers really I mean it's up to me in the long run (I'm prep'n the bed to sleep in), guess I'm just looking for peoples experiences... Do you ever feel you've been too cynical at some point, maybe blew a relationship because of it. Sorry if this a newbie thread, Iâ??ve actually been here for years with a different username but spent a few years away from the board. Regardless, any and all info appreciated! Ahui hou Boomah Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Faustian Posted July 18, 2008 Report Share Posted July 18, 2008 Background on your teerak might help...as would info on her achievements... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Julian2 Posted July 18, 2008 Report Share Posted July 18, 2008 I've lived with two bar girls, both great experiences. The bottom line is never to give them any serious money. Pay for what ever they want, within reason, a few baht for the family... After a while, if you note an attitude change, time to move on. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bust Posted July 18, 2008 Report Share Posted July 18, 2008 Sounds like you are being cautious enough. If your happy and you're not getting burnt enjoy yourself. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sanddawg1 Posted July 18, 2008 Report Share Posted July 18, 2008 Do you ever feel you've been too cynical at some point, maybe blew a relationship because of it. Yes; I have been single for 14 years and have let some good women go because of MY trust issues. Not sure if I can go there again (I know I won't with a Farang) maybe with a TG. Just don't let her into your finances as long as you take good care of her she does not need to know!!! S1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Old Hippie Posted July 18, 2008 Report Share Posted July 18, 2008 "...I noticed any girl mentioned here (referring mostly to BGâ??s, Former BGâ??s, â??GTGâ?Â, just Thai women in general) get painted with a pretty broad brush..." We are speaking in general terms on the subject, hence "the broad brush" (which is just another way of saying "MY GIRL IS DIFFERENT, NO, SHE REALLY IS!"). Let me put it this way...if you went to a prison, would you say "generally speaking" ALL the guys in here are bad? of course you would, and you'd be careful in trusting them, and dealing with them right? Of course you would. If you knew a guy was convicted of embezzlement/Tax fraud, you'd shy away from hiring him to do you business's books would you not? So, if you knew a girl had a job sucking dick and getting fucked in the ass, and part of that job was telling guys "I love this, I love you...I only do you YOU..." and all the other lies, don't you think you should take that with a grain or ,kilo of salt? So, safe to say, when generally speaking about whores, it is a good idea to be careful right? yes, of course right. "Broad brush" is really now just a lame cliche used when guys don't want to face reality. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
soongmak Posted July 18, 2008 Report Share Posted July 18, 2008 Wow, another "should I go for her" thread. We haven't had one in a long, long time. Good to see the usual suspect gathering around as well (Faustian, OH ) If you want my take: Go for it! It's like playing the casino. The odds are stacked against you. Heavily. But if the stakes are no higher than you can afford to lose, what harm could it do? :thumbup: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
soongmak Posted July 18, 2008 Report Share Posted July 18, 2008 P.s. Don't believe OH. No matter what he tells you, not every whore takes it up the ass. I can also relate from personal experience that some of them don't even suck dick. So how much truth could there be in his other statements? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MooNoi Posted July 18, 2008 Report Share Posted July 18, 2008 some of them don't even suck dick That's because you are "soong maak" so you're proably "hum yai" as well!! Therefore, they get scared and run away!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Boomah Posted July 19, 2008 Author Report Share Posted July 19, 2008 Aloha gents, Thanks for the replies, always appreciate the inputâ?¦ Even OHâ??s, Iâ??m sure he has good reason for his opinion. Funny thing is I do recall a recent post about a good girl victimized by her Western man, I also recall she briefly worked the scene as so many do; I DONâ??T recall the â??big brushâ? being used thereâ?¦ Could my situation be similar??? Nah, of course not Anyway, again I was really looking for experiences. The big question & really the gist of the thread was has our cynicism, over cautious nature, extreme distrust of said women actually affected a relationship you may have been involved in. What Iâ??m going to do with this TG is really up to me, I mean what ever decision I make will only affect yours truly! Iâ??ve been involved with a few TGâ??s over the years; yes most were current or former BGâ??s. With the exception of the one previously mentioned (1st degree burn), all were quite enjoyableâ?¦ Guess Iâ??m just lucky. The exception could have been a lot worse, turned out she had a Thai BF on the side, in this case he DIDNâ??T know about meâ?¦ I was lucky, heâ??s a Thai cop. Once I found that out, using a lot of discretion, I broke it off with her. Didnâ??t want to do any high-rise skydiving sans parachute. I do agree this whole thing is a gamble but thatâ??s pretty much true with any relationship, albeit with better odds in most cases. Honestly I donâ??t worry too much about it, thereâ??s sooooo much more to worry about out thereâ?¦ I was just coming home from the Kingdom recently when our auto-pilot decided to rapidly flip the plane over on its side at FL370â?¦ Needless to say it stalled and we lost A LOT of alt. During the recovery we encountered an accelerated stall & lost more alt. Then, as if that wasnâ??t enough, we ended up going through part of the thunder storm, the same storm we were trying to deviate around when the auto-pilot went nuts. I didnâ??t hit me until after the IFE & once we got back to altâ?¦ Wow, got close to becoming part of the Vietnamese country side! Sorry for getting so off track here, point Iâ??m making is this relationship thing is really small potatoes (IMHO anyway) , most of the time you can see things comingâ?¦ You just need good SA. Again thanks guys, I do appreciate the insight. Iâ??m betting most of you are not as cynical or thick skinned as your online persona, I also betting most really do want others to have successesâ?¦ That means thereâ??s always hope & a chance things will work out for all us. Ahui hou Boomah Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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