Redbaron Posted May 29, 2009 Author Report Share Posted May 29, 2009 She's living with another guy who supports her, she also gets social security which is a fair bit in Aus, and my maintenance. There is no alimony in this country. She does also have access to the money we saved as a couple which she says is gone, plus she had a lot of money in the bank when we met. The only reason she says she won't work is to try to antagonise me, but I admit her employment prospects are a lot better overseas. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Torneyboy Posted May 30, 2009 Report Share Posted May 30, 2009 Sounds like you have everything covered ...good luck If things get really nasty ..keep your head this will look better to the court.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bust Posted May 31, 2009 Report Share Posted May 31, 2009 but what I'm interested in is guys who have fought to see the kids MORE than once per week or every second weekend, and how they've done. Thanks in advance, As soon as I see the word "fought" it rings alarm bells. If you can avoid involving lawyers do so as 99% of the time they get rich and you get nothing...seen it happen so often. If she is unreasonable a lawyer will only enable her to do it more effectively. Unfortunately you sometimes need to put your own personal wishes aside in order to avoid exposing the children to an ugly battle between yourself and your ex. Just try and remain calm and reasonable even if she won't. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Redbaron Posted June 1, 2009 Author Report Share Posted June 1, 2009 Yes, I realise things could get ugly if I don't play my cards right. What I want to do is strike a balance between what is best for my son, and what everybody is entitled to. I think it would be better for my son to regularly see me rather than not. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cavanami Posted June 18, 2009 Report Share Posted June 18, 2009 When I went thru one of my divorces, I made sure that I retained a "father friendly" attorney and it was a huge benefit! Most attorneys cave in to the woman's demands and you, as the male, are screwed and paying for it all. There was an organization, ADAM?, Association for Divorced and married Men...something like that and that recommended male orientated attorneys. Worked for me! YMMV Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Redbaron Posted June 28, 2009 Author Report Share Posted June 28, 2009 Update: Just got a SMS from the ex.. I had the lad over the weekend. She's quizzed him and knows he spent the weekend with me, my mum and the GL... (She's previously threatened not to let me see him again if I ever introduced him to my GF) - SMS read: "..asked lxxxx who he saw today. He said grandma. Pxxxx... haha. U know the consequences... Haha. U bastard" (lxxxx = the boy; Pxxxx = the GL) stay tuned - was due to put in the divorce papers tomorrow (with access terms signed and sealed), let's see what happens next Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Redbaron Posted June 30, 2009 Author Report Share Posted June 30, 2009 Update: Lodged the divorce papers yesterday, best $400 I ever spent... the cow stole my mobile phone though (not the good one, the one I only use for her so I can turn the bastard off when she gives me the shits). She noticed I had 2 phones on me, since we had to do the Xray security thing at court.. told me I'd have to give her my "good" number if I was to see the boy again. I told her No Way, the court doc's state we are to arrange visits via email, 2 weeks in advance.. she's also telling me she no longer has email, or mobile phone (although I called her on it last night and she answered!), and is moving house on Friday... Stay tuned Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shygye Posted June 30, 2009 Report Share Posted June 30, 2009 Do the courts have a service where a court appointed person is used for handing off the child? Is she moving to a different judicial district? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MooNoi Posted July 2, 2009 Report Share Posted July 2, 2009 Wow, Red. She sounds like a complete Bitch. Hope karma is at work and she gets what she deserves. And, more to the point, everything goes well for you. Keep us posted. :thumbup: Moo Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bust Posted July 3, 2009 Report Share Posted July 3, 2009 Document every conversation to the letter. Everything.....every little detail. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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