Did I handle it Right??

[Savittre]

I've been in Pattaya for a week and a half. I didn't really get hooked up with one girl because it leaves me freer to do what I feel like doing, and also because I didn't meet anyone who was persuasive enough to nail me.

 

One drawback to this, though- I really love Thai food, and doing the food trip with a Thai girl really makes it much more enjoyable. I had met a beer bar girl 3 or 4 days ago, and I thought it might be good to barfine her and then go out for a nice dinner. Mind you, my initial impression of her was that she's looking for a sponsor.

 

Anyway, I bought her a beer and barfined her, we went and played some pool and had a couple more beers, then dinner- dinner was wierd. I told her I wanted fish and then I thought she'd get some suitable vegetables, etc. to eat with the fish. It didn't work out like that. She asked me if I wanted rice, and I said I did, but she didn't get rice for herself, so I figured she'd get noodles, but she didn't! And instead of dishes to complement the fish (she calls it 'fiss'), she got a bowl of chicken soup!! So, that was what she ate- fish and soup- no rice, no vegetables.

 

I am not making this up!

 

OK, after dinner, we went down to Walking Street, watched a rock n roll band, drank about 4 more beers, and she was starting to get pretty drunk. We went to see that Elvis Presley impersonator (at her request). She started yelling 'You forget me!' at Elvis- she was hammered by then.

 

At the end of the night, I didn't want her to come back to my room. I have a problem with insomnia, and I need to sleep alone, or else I just won't be able to sleep more than 3 hours, max. Plus, my hotel has safe deposit boxes in the hotel rooms (I prefer it when those are in the lobby near to the Reception counter.) And the lock is a key lock, not combination. I don't think she'd rip me off because I know where she works, nevertheless, it would be on my mind and contributing to insomnia.

 

So, I tried to explain about this to her as best I could, and I gave her 2000 baht. She, however, took it personally, she was upset, blinking back tears at one point because I didn't want her sleeping over.

 

I wanted to walk her home for safety's sake, but she told me that if I didn't want her in my hotel room, she didn't want me to walk her home. So, I went without hesitation back to my place.

 

I think I handled it right. I reckoned that going rates for a 37 year old beer bar girl would be 1000 baht ST, 1500 baht LT, and as I said, I gave her 2000 baht. There was no sex involved. I also knew that she lived close by, and I had offered to walk her home when I met her 4 days previously, but she turned me down that time, too.

 

Well, guys, if you'd been in my shoes, would you have done anything differently? The only thing I might still do is get a short letter for her, explaining about my insomnia, translated into Thai. She's out of town now, gone home to see her family. I'm thankful for that!

 

Since when did these women start drinking alcohol? I've been away from Pattaya since 2002. Back then, a LD consisted of about 2 thimblefuls of pepsi or cola. I don't really like them getting drunk because some of them have emotional trauma or difficult situations with the people in their lives- family, whatever- and it all comes out after they get inebriated. I don't mean to sound callous, but I'm here to have fun, y'know??

 

Thanks!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

[ozpharlap]

Fucked up big time

 

If you don't speak Thai good, don't even try to communicate a difficult proposition to them, it ain't going to happen.

 

I had a hard time the other day just saying to a Thai girl (whom apparently learned English at school), to put my bisexual nurse back on the phone (of course, I just refer to her by her name) whereas, she just hung up the phone.

 

Also, in the girl's mind it is good to get paid but it is not all they think about, it seems that she had a good night and wanted you to finish on a good night ... you could have slipped her one, and then bid her good night ... it is not only just about the money, they have feelings to

[USVirgin]

Well, guys, if you'd been in my shoes, would you have done anything differently?

 

One thing and one thing only.

 

I wouldn't have given a fuck about what she ordered at the restaurant. In fact, I wouldn't have even noticed.

[Mekong]

 

I think I handled it right. I reckoned that going rates for a 37 year old beer bar girl would be 1000 baht ST, 1500 baht LT, and as I said, I gave her 2000 baht. There was no sex involved.

 

[Julian2]

Since when did these women start drinking alcohol?

 

I had a real thing for a bargirl once. She was about 30, amazing in bed, great fun for a night out, just great all-round company.

One problem, too fond of the booze. Never carried on or created a scene, just kept tipping it down.

My first wife put me off drunken women for good.

[Bangkoktraveler]

Some Thai women can drink most men under the table.

 

I knew of one Thai woman (not bar girl) who had about 3 jobs to support her drinking habit. She would drink words could not come out of her mouth but still continued drinking.

[expat]

You handled it fine.

 

If you really feel the need to speak to her again, one option is to just lie to her and say you felt sick. It's the Thai thing to do--lets her save face and is relatively easy for you to communicate.

[eldar1]

I can't see anything you did wrong besides paying her way way way too much.

 

i second expats' advice on saying your sick, thais do it all the time, even if they catch you out later you just say you took some medicine and felt better and they don't bat an eyelash.

[jonjon058]

Well, guys, if you'd been in my shoes, would you have done anything differently?

 

I would not have barfined a 37 year old woman from a Pattaya beer bar.

[sanddawg1]

I had a similar experience in Patters; minus the food. Barfined a girl from the FLB Bar early and went on a drinking and go-go tour with a friend and his lady of the evening. Anyway both the girls were doing tequila shots and got totally trashed; it was funny and cute at first.

 

We leave Walking Street, pile into a baht-bus and head toward our hotel on soi 13, that’s when the trouble started with my friend’s girl. She was so wasted she didn’t know where we were and kept pressing the stop-bell on the baht-bus thinking we were at the hotel street. She did this several times we practically had to restrain her to make her quit, so by the time we reach soi 13 my friend is sick of her. He flags down a motorbike taxi puts her on it and sends her off, one problem solved!

 

Now my girl seems fine (drunk but fine) we go into the hotel my friend storms off to his room alone, me and the drunken princess go to my room. Princess goes straight to the toilet (door wide open) sits on the pot and pisses then stands up and starts puking into the sink!

 

Call me old fashion but I find a puking girl a bit of a turn-off! So anyway I’m a gentleman, get her a wet washcloth and a towel and tell her it’s OK I’m not mad. So after she recovers (somewhat) I tell her she needs to “go loom†and get some sleep and here is 1000 baht for your trouble (generous I thought).

 

That’s when the shit started!!! “No I stay you, take care you, you think I bad lady†tears and all. Still the gentleman I explain to her “no you are sick and I don’t expect boom-boom take the money to help your family and go homeâ€Â. She continues and I tell her that I will not tell her mammasan she got drunk and “not take care.†She still continues her drunken rant for another few minutes until she frazzled my good humor!! :onfire:

 

OKAY by this time the gentleman has left the building; I walk to the door open it and say “get the fuck out†her reaction (silence). I escort her down to the lobby and tell the doorman she is not welcome back, I slip him 100 baht and he nods his concurrence.

 

But a caveat on this is I have got drunk with BGs and had a great time with no problems.

 

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