MooNoi Posted December 3, 2010 Report Share Posted December 3, 2010 Just had a fight on the phone with the gf. Friends of mine (2 x couples) have invited me and her to brunch this Sunday. I asked gf if she would like to go, and she said that she's not sure becuase she's "a bit scared". When I asked her why, she said she's not sure what to talk about or how to answer when farangs speak to her and ask questions. If she had bad English I would understand, but she's lived in Australia over 2 years now, studied English and IMO has a very high standard of English and doesn't have too problems at all communicating. She's quite a shy person normally, but it would be nice if she just tried! I am thinking of taking this relationship long-term, but if she's going to be scared of meeting my farang friends and my family I'm going to get jack of it really quickly. We've only been dating about 6 months and haven't been to a lot of social gatherings as yet - mainly one-on-one dates together or with her Thai friends. Now I'm worried that if she comes with me on Sunday she will clam up, not talk, and my friends will think that she's rude or boring. I'm trying to stay calm and not get frustrated with her, but it's really hard when she's being so silly! Any ideas how to handle this situation? It really is frustrating and some tips would be appreciated! Thanks! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Flashermac Posted December 3, 2010 Report Share Posted December 3, 2010 Tell her to bring a friend (female)? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MooNoi Posted December 3, 2010 Author Report Share Posted December 3, 2010 Nope. It's time for her to stand on her two feet and be sociable with farang people, Frash. If she wants to live in a farang country and have a farang bf, then she shouldn't have an issue socialising with farang people from time to time. Just another example of Thais not wanting to see outside their own little world once again. (Sorry - I'm still a bit irky typing this after my phone call with her before). Anyway, if she brings a friend then it would be weird for the friend having 3 other couples with her that SHE doesn't know. Then they'll just talk to each other anyway which defeats the purpose of going to have a social Sunday brunch with someone. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MooNoi Posted December 3, 2010 Author Report Share Posted December 3, 2010 Sorry - double posted. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
USVirgin Posted December 3, 2010 Report Share Posted December 3, 2010 I can't speak from experience, but I agree after six months it's about time to force the issue. Chances are she'll enjoy herself anyway. If it's a disaster, oh well. I had a Cambodian immigrant friend (not a girlfriend, but I was trying to get in her pants) who had the same fears, mainly about her English skills. When I finally got her to meet my friends, she was the center of attention and she loved it. Who knew? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
USVirgin Posted December 3, 2010 Report Share Posted December 3, 2010 Farkin double post again. Strange, last time I made a double post, I got a double post error message and the second post was auto-deleted. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hugh_Hoy Posted December 3, 2010 Report Share Posted December 3, 2010 Just had a fight on the phone with the gf. Friends of mine (2 x couples) have invited me and her to brunch this Sunday. I asked gf if she would like to go, and she said that she's not sure becuase she's "a bit scared". Moo...time for some "tough love". Call her back and advise her that you've told the others that she would absolutely love to have breakfast together; that it will be a chance for her to practice her English in a different social setting. If she balks, tell her that you can't back out now...that you'd lose face. I'm confident that she would understand that concept and wouldn't want you to suffer that disgrace. 5555 Suggestion: when being seated, try to arrange it so that she is sitting next to another female (who isn't also sitting next to another female). That way, your date will only have to deal with you and the other female; probably the most comfortable situation for her until she gets with the program. 55555555555 HH Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
expat Posted December 3, 2010 Report Share Posted December 3, 2010 I disagree. She feels the way she feels and attacking her for it won't be productive. Work with her, try to understand how she feels. In the long term, I don't see it as a problem. I went through something similar with my wife many moons ago. My friend told me "she'll find her way," and he was right. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nervous God Posted December 3, 2010 Report Share Posted December 3, 2010 What girlfriend???? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MooNoi Posted December 3, 2010 Author Report Share Posted December 3, 2010 My girlfriend ... for want of a better term. Ok.. a girl I hang out with, comes to stay over a couple of nights a week and I have sex with sometimes. Better? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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