cavanami Posted July 7, 2014 Report Share Posted July 7, 2014 I asked many a Thai when a family member can be ousted from the family...the answer I always got, was never! With such a mindset, then there is no incentive to conform or improve one's behavior...just a lost cause. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dean Posted July 7, 2014 Author Report Share Posted July 7, 2014 My wife has repeatedly said that "he is no good," but would never disown him. When he was arrested about a year ago for domestic assault (for kicking in two walls on his way out of the house) and spent 24 hours in jail, the way that my wife acted, you would have thought that he had died. I'm not overly worried about my safety, unless his drug and alcohol use gets worse. I don't know if it's a thai thing but the way that my wife and his sisters deal with Ming is to not piss him off or make any demands on him. Not the best perpetration for living in the real world. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Flashermac Posted July 7, 2014 Report Share Posted July 7, 2014 Marine Corps boot camp would do him a world of good. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cavanami Posted July 7, 2014 Report Share Posted July 7, 2014 I see so many Thai male children completely pampered...WTF...they are boys, males...you need to knock them with a 2 X 4 to get their attention...naaahhhh, little Somchai, he really didn't mean to rob that gold shop, it wasn't his fault, etc etc etc Marine Corps boot camp would be too kind... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Flashermac Posted July 7, 2014 Report Share Posted July 7, 2014 It is unbelievable the way Thais make their daughters behave, while letting the boys run wild. TIT p.s. The PC folks forced the Army to make Basic Combat Training much easier than in my time. The Marine Corps had to ease off some too, but they have been able to hold the line much better. The old idea used to be to give you hell at the beginning o your service, since it was better to have you break under stress in training than in combat. I enjoyed RVN much more than I did BCT. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted July 7, 2014 Report Share Posted July 7, 2014 It does not matter what relationship your in, what country and who ever your with. There is only one way out of this situation as you do not appear to have the backup and respect from other family members. That is to walk away from it all and never go back. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cavanami Posted July 7, 2014 Report Share Posted July 7, 2014 Or show some "tough love". Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
King Kung Posted July 8, 2014 Report Share Posted July 8, 2014 Keep a baseball bat concealed somewhere he would never look -- like near the kitchen sink. The next time he wallops you, pummel him to a point just before death. You are obviously nothing more than an object of derision to him. Teach him a lifelong lesson, then get out. Ditch the baby's momma who turns a blind eye to her husband taking beatings. That's the real proplem. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dean Posted July 9, 2014 Author Report Share Posted July 9, 2014 I install wood floors for a living,so all I have to Odis go out to the garage or my van and get a flooring mallet. Or, I could fire up my compressor and start shooting finish nails in his direction. I haven't seen him since last Thursday. I left for work at 6 AM and, since I had kicked him out of the house, he was sitting next to the front door, smoking a bong. He knows that, if he crosses the line again, I will contact the assistant DA that is handling his probation, then go to another assistant DA that handled his first domestic violence case, and then contact immigration and list his rap sheet with them. I'm not sure they would deport him but I would guess that they wouldn't give him another 10 year Green Card, when his expires in 7 years. I'm going to try to convince him to go back to Thailand for 3-6 months and spend the time thinking about what he wants to do with his life. A 3-6 month vacation from him would be nice. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Flashermac Posted July 9, 2014 Report Share Posted July 9, 2014 He might be drafted into the Thai army when he comes back. That would give him something to think about. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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