Expats Who Die In LOS

[bust]

Sadly last week a very special long time friend of mine passed away. He had been living for the last few years in Hua Hin. We had a special connection for a number of reasons one of them being he saved my life one night. I say that in the most literal terms. Without his presence and quick thinking I wouldn't be here today. We also had our first child the same day minutes apart in the same hospital ward.

Unfortunately I will not be able to make it as the prayers began yesterday along with the cleansing practice. My understanding is prayers began yesterday at 6:30 PM and will continue Friday, and Saturday. On Sunday at 10:00 AM, there will be the ceremonial cremation. I hope I haven't misinterpreted the events. There will be a memorial for him back here in Sydney which his eldest son is arranging which I will attend.

 

My question for those who may be more knowledgeable in Thai traditions, is there a way to create a place to pay respects? I am not sure if his ashes will remain there or are coming home and the fact he is a farang could determine what is tradition. As I will be heading up there towards the end of the year or early next year it would be nice to be able to pay my respects and spend a quiet moment in the place he found peace. He became ill I believe with an aggressive decline in his health.

Not sure if there are options but if there are I wanted to pass them on to his son so we can visit him whenever we want.

 

RIP Brad 🙏

[Old Hippie]

Sorry to hear about your loss. I lost 3 friends in the last month, never easy. 

[bust]

Thanks OH. Sorry for your loss as well. Kind of hit me harder than I expected.

As a tradition I don't do funerals. Personal choice from past experience. But I would have attended his for certain.

[Coss]

My condolences.

>> is there a way to create a place to pay respects?<<

I don't know specifically, the Thai procedure, I imagine it would be fairly similar to the Lao.

When I go, MLG will place my ashes in a little concrete stupa and it will be placed with others in the local Temple, in the grounds.

I imagine that there would be some small cost and liaison with the Monks, with a ceremony or so, on placement.

A Thai local would be best placed to make these arrangements.

We go to the local Temple in Sokkham, to see Grandpa's stupa, on the auspicious days, when we are there.

If the ashes are not going to be in Thailand, I've seen smaller little stupas, with photos, in the Temple. It might be possible to place a token to remember the departed, in the Temple grounds, worth asking.

[Old Hippie]

10 hours ago, bust said:

Thanks OH. Sorry for your loss as well. Kind of hit me harder than I expected.

As a tradition I don't do funerals. Personal choice from past experience. But I would have attended his for certain.

I usually don’t like funerals either, *IF* I go, I usually stay outside, don’t want my last memory to be of them laying in a box all dressed up…

     

[bust]

I still vividly remember my sisters young son being carried in a white coffin in the outstretched arms of his father. That was over 39 years ago. The only funeral I have been to since was when I buried my father.

[think_too_mut]

The first of us who passed away was Lao Huli, a cook, 2004. I think. Canadian.
He met his destiny in Cambodia, even this board crowd funded his demise and the funeral cost.

[My Penis is hungry]

If you mean the first of us, as in Nanaplaza that would probably be Robert White who was onone of the pre veraions boards before it became nanaplaze. 

 

He wrote amazing short very short stories about walking along the river and through the markets.

 

I won't go into his passing but had a rather sad tqist

 

I went to his funeral in around 2000 maybe? 

 

Lao Huli (spelling?) was a good guy, I bought my first digital camera from him, it took about 30 "high rez" images on one card. 

 

Pink Flamingo was the hotel he managed. 

 

PP was a different place then. Canadian embassy had me chase down his descendents in Canada while he was in hospital who were greatly surprised he was still alive.

 

Very fond memories.

[Titanic]

Robert White the real old Hippie, long hair and shoulder bag looking like he just walked off a page in the furry freak brothers magazine. Was with him in Tilac new years eve 1999 when Sarisin brought in Champagne. Robert was a nice genuine guy, which is more than I can say about a few others I met from here.