sfinkz Posted August 19, 2003 Report Share Posted August 19, 2003 Much discussion here, from self-proclaimed experts to unabashed newbies, of a love for Thailand. Invariably, however, it seems that could be generalized to a love for Thai women instead, be it from a GTG magnet or a rescuer of BGs by ex-pats or tourists. Sure, if you are prepared to commit to Thailand for a lifetime, a Thai companion is a natural. And a couple of people I know have made this step and enjoy a better quality of life there than is afforded elsewhere. The remaining vast majority, however, seem to be enjoying the affordable women, available at a price point difficult to obtain elsewhere and thus the rationalizing by professing a love for all things Thai, to the point of remaining in Thailand well past date of expiry or revisiting the same haunts multiple times a year. This addictive behavoir is continually reenforced by comments putting down farang woman and of constantly thinking about Thailand while away and scheming to return (88 days to go). In the context of the big picture, the whole wide world, definitely a dangerous affliction. I consider myself fortunate to have had my crash course, resplendent with all the jollies and pratfalls to rid it out of my system, in my 'salad' days and as I've moved on and had a look around and settled down a bit, Thailand is again intriguing me, as it is not without its charms, after a dozen or so years without giving it much thought. Anyway, I know I don't qualify, but anyone, not wearing saffron and meaning it, who can claim such a fondness for Thailand that they either live there at a hardship to be immersed in the culture or regularly visit to do the same without engaging in the easy availability of women (bringing your own is encouraged) either in or out of the P4P scene? Or could even imagine doing something so extreme? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Paillote Posted August 19, 2003 Report Share Posted August 19, 2003 Well written. Don't think you will get many comments as it is spot on! Paillote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sfinkz Posted August 19, 2003 Author Report Share Posted August 19, 2003 That's OK as I was posting mostly for myself as I'm wondering if it is possible to possess such strength. Looking back, I can only think of one individual who may have fit the bill. An ex-roomie, prince of a guy, dynamic, everyone's favorite uncle in the neighborhood, with a deep Thai understanding who never dabbled. Also had a never-ending stream of Euro hard-bodies arrive for visits and didn't mess around there either so maybe he was a bit of a eunuch, I don't know, but speaking to heterosexual males: can it be done? And the reason I ask is, and I certainly don't have a problem with the occassional sex tourist but habitual offenders do trouble me to not travel outside that comfort zone but adultery is quite another matter. This year, my wife, who I have successfully escorted around LOS on a beginner tour (complete with an intro to the nightlife scene without violating sodomy laws) in the past, and I are on seperate vacations. Knowing that the one place I've wanted to visit but haven't, as the back door was bolted shut during my posting there but now swings freely, is Angkor, she suggested I make it a solo. As my heart and mind raced upon hearing this, the words out of my mouth instead, being a pathological liar, were "Oh no, if I can't be with you I better go to one of those ugly countries", knowing I am capable of enriching daytime explorations but not entirely trusting myself at nighttime as I pass through the hotspots. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jasmine Posted August 19, 2003 Report Share Posted August 19, 2003 Hi, I feel that they are a few people, not many who have stayed in Thailand for a purpose which is NOT for the Thai women. In 1964, there was an American peace corps teacher who taught me for a couple years. He is still in Thailand, working with his American wife (whom he met in Thailand), the last time I heard about him, he was in Tak. I just hope, that not all foreingers want to be in Thailand just for easy, cheap availability of women. Thailand has much more to offer but it takes special persons who can find those "particular" places that make them want to stay. I cannot say much more, for Hubby cannot really stand Thailand more than 3 weeks at a time (at the present time). I am just about as guilty for there are many things that bother me in Thailand, especially for the past 15 years). Cheers! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest lazyphil Posted August 19, 2003 Report Share Posted August 19, 2003 Fear not. I have a couple (falang) who lived (in LOS) and breathed LOS for some years, he worked for WWF. Never made it with a Thai woman as he has a beautiful falang wife. He has a wealth of knowledge but doesn't give it the large...''listen and learn'' attitude, I appreciate this!! They visit now and then but live in Stroud, Gloucester so not often. We visited them some months ago, his neighbors came round for Thai food they cooked; some mother earth type with her Tamil space cadet guru boyfriend, a very odd but interesting weekend had. I agree, I find guys insisting on hanging out in p4p bars and going nowhere else in LOS quite depressing but equally those 'experts' lauding over men who 'save' bg's annoying particularly if they p4p'd before (full of guilt and self hatred for their past IMO)....I think like in my case they save us Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pattaya127 Posted August 20, 2003 Report Share Posted August 20, 2003 I do have a friend who visits Thailand regularly and buys Art there as a business. he is married, has kids, and has no interest cheating on his wife. I am sure he is not the only one. I've had my naughty years (99/00), but I doubt I have spent more than 10% of my waking time around the nightlife in all my trips, a lot of it disco-ing and then going home. But then, i am the board romantic..... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest lazyphil Posted August 20, 2003 Report Share Posted August 20, 2003 To add to my earlier reply with after-thoughts; The couple in question after living and working in the Wildlife/conservation area both in the office and field for several years and go back from time to time. His mrs always tells me they both get miserable before they leave to LOS because they know how fast the holiday goes and those final days before departure to fly back home are horrible. Yes, a bit crazy!!...I gave copys of Thai pop songs, he refuses to even listen to them as it makes him 'homesick'. Their love for LOS is quite profound and deep. They take their young daughter too, very blonde/blue eyed, they like the warm attention she gets by Thais. I think reading this board we can end up thinking LOS is a club just for men where anybody else cant possibly have strong feelings for the country like most of us here do. Personally after tasting the 'fruit' I would be kidding myself if I said my repeat visits were entirely for the culture as it is for the aforementioned. Now I am settled with a tg I can say now that it is just for that. In my case your post title rings true But respectfully I think its deluded to think 'Behind every T-lover is a T-woman' applys to all..... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
think_too_mut Posted August 20, 2003 Report Share Posted August 20, 2003 >Much discussion here, from self-proclaimed experts to unabashed newbies, of a love for Thailand. Invariably, however, it seems that could be generalized to a love for Thai women instead, be it from a GTG magnet or a rescuer of BGs by ex-pats or tourist No reason to fear newbie bashers. That does not exist on this board. All we do is - spot and sanction the trolls. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
butterfly Posted August 21, 2003 Report Share Posted August 21, 2003 Your post is perfect. I have lived in Thailand a long time and about to break up with my live in girlfriend of 2 years. Yes I love her, yet the second I leave Thailand to work every month (as I have to every month to pay the bills) the love of my life is trying to "upgrade". Any of you guys who live here in BKK understand the BG saying upgrade. The perfect explanation to my current situation is this so perfectly said " you can take the girl out of the bar but you can't take the bar out of the girl"... they ALWAYS want to go back...all of them...I know ex-bg's who marry very rich farang..yet the second the rich farang husband departs on a flight to farangland the gal hit's the street..go figure. sweet dreams Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alfmaz Posted August 21, 2003 Report Share Posted August 21, 2003 It?s good to see not everyone goes to Thailand for the girls, I love Thailand, I love the food the people the excitement and the shopping. Sometimes I just want to have a holiday and sometimes I want to let loose. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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