Guest Posted December 3, 2003 Report Share Posted December 3, 2003 engagement ring were a part of the culture but not a wedding ring Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Torneyboy Posted December 3, 2003 Author Report Share Posted December 3, 2003 p31 says I gave my TGF an engagement ring, to me it was what I needed to do She didn't ask for it, and she was surprised She was more concern about the 2 bit's of gold Hi p31 I will give her one...just she went out and chose it..and put the deposit down...i would have ...some time Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Torneyboy Posted December 3, 2003 Author Report Share Posted December 3, 2003 Hi Cent. Thanks for that. Glad you both are happy and your relationship is growing stronger year by year. I think my wife is going to burst when we pick the ring up..and she will .....as BBs GF did ...show everybody she knows and many more she doesn''t Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
paulc31 Posted December 4, 2003 Report Share Posted December 4, 2003 Hi torneyboy, Man I can understand your frustration :: When my TGF & I went to the jewelers to looking at there gold, she would tell me "UP TO YOU" To me that's frustrating paulc31 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
johnnyk Posted December 4, 2003 Report Share Posted December 4, 2003 I came back to my TG after 4 months away and she had a large fake diamond ring on her finger where she used to wear a modest non-engagement ring. Soon thereafter the relationship tanked and I later ran into a friend of hers who said she was getting married next year to a falang (not me!). TG has since told me she has no falang and is not getting married (I don't believe/trust her in any case). So, why the engagement ring? 1) For her family to think I was THE ONE when I came back? 2) So the hotel people wouldn't think she was a P4P girl? 3) To send me a not-so-subtle signal that things had changed? Damned if I know. I didn't ask her at the time because I didn't want to have my suspicions confirmed. Thoughts anyone? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Torneyboy Posted December 4, 2003 Author Report Share Posted December 4, 2003 Hi p31 I just hate shopping..in my country..avoided the jeweler stores...she can spend an hour in them. Whould come home with drawings of rings i knew she was up to something Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
paulc31 Posted December 4, 2003 Report Share Posted December 4, 2003 Hi torneyboy. >>I just hate shopping..in my country..avoided the jeweler stores...she can spend an hour in them<< I bet you spend hours shopping for her clothes also O man poor torneyboy paulc31 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Torneyboy Posted December 4, 2003 Author Report Share Posted December 4, 2003 Hi If i cant walk in to a shop see and buy and out in under 10 mins..is a bad day. Christmas soon will have to hit the shops ....in and out..can not stand the searching for stuff. Thats why i am going along with the ring she saw...save hours/days/weeks! I bet you do however Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rovineye Posted December 4, 2003 Report Share Posted December 4, 2003 [quoteSo, why the engagement ring? 1) For her family to think I was THE ONE when I came back? 2) So the hotel people wouldn't think she was a P4P girl? 3) To send me a not-so-subtle signal that things had changed? Damned if I know. I didn't ask her at the time because I didn't want to have my suspicions confirmed. Thoughts anyone? My GF has worn a fake engagement ring for years now. I think it is to let the world know (esp the cops that hit on her) that she is not available. In your case, I don't know. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Grabii Posted December 5, 2003 Report Share Posted December 5, 2003 Cent, and Torney, My ex-wife, from Roi Et, didn't want an engagement ring. Until we'd been back in the USA and married for a while. My present wife, from Chiangmai, was excited to have an engagement ring. We went shopping for it together and found one we both liked after visiting several shops. I formally gave it to her at an engagement party for close family and friends a few days later. She took it off for our wedding ceremony and I got to present it to her for a 2nd time as part of the sinsot, along with the gold necklace and bracelet. Regards, JEff Cent said:Torney, Most Thais in Isaan don't give or wear rings with the marriage. I think it isn't really a custom here, but has become more prevelent over the years due to the Western culture exchange. More so in BKK I think than upcountry still. I bought my wife an engagement ring/diamond and gave it to her when I formally proposed to her. Telling her we'd get married a year from the date I proposed and gave her the ring. I bought it in the states and brought it over for that purpose. We bought our wedding bands in our favorite (well HER favorite anyways) gold shop in Pattaya a few months before the wedding. They were both inscribed inside in Thai with our names and the wedding date (Thai dates/year). But as I said, I see very few of the married couples up in Surin and the village (especially the village) wearing gold wedding bands, and even less with a diamond engagement ring.It never was a Thai custom. Most give gold necklaces and braclets with the sin sot ceremony which basically I believe took the place of the traditional wedding band/diamond engagement ring I think. Plus what Thai guy in his right mind wants a gold wedding band showing all he is married, to the puying he is trying to butterfly with? :-) Cent Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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