Finally I filed for divorce part 2

[NongSung]

THE LAST ONE AND A HALF YEARS

MY STORY PART I

My wife has a sister, now 26 years old and she asked me if I could put an ad in the newspaper in order to find her a boyfriend so I did. A number of letters arrived and after a while there was only one guy left. An older guy, definitely well-off and it seemed an honest guy. We met him a number of times and he started to write to my wife?s sister, exchanging photos and so on. To my opinion my wife?s sister was no match for him but my wife thought it was. She (my wife) started to teach him a bit of Thai; they met during lunch time and I was starting to feel a bit uncomfortable about it.

So I told her to slow down and she did. What puzzled me was the fact that this guy hesitated to go to Thailand in order to meet my wife's sister. Every time there was an excuse, an urgent business matter or something else to cancel his trip.

I started to be a little conspicuous about it.

Then (October 2000) I went to Thailand and contracted a bad case of food poison; I was in a Bangkok hospital for several days and as a part of the medical check-up my blood was tested; on my request for HIV as well. I was negative...

Shortly after my return my wife asked me if it was okay that she would go to a specialist in order to get treatment for the dark areas on her face (like many Isaan girls have). I said 'sure' and she made an appointment but before the specialist would treat her he wanted to check her blood first. He planned to treat the black areas with medication that would need to check her blood levels regular and he asked her if it was okay to check everything (including HIV).

She though 'no problem since my husband is negative'. She came out positive; not only on HIV but hepatitis C as well...

We were devastated but I told her that I still loved her, that we would find a way to pick up our lives again and make the best of it. She was depressive, she cried and I tried to calm her down and after a while we started to talk about how we would cope with the future. Her blood levels indicated that she was not far from needing treatment and it was obvious to me that she needed some one to take care of her soon. She was diagnosed having a maximum of 5 years left (because of advanced Hep C and HIV). Her wish was to stay in Europe (because of the medical facilities) and have someone from her family to come over to take care of her. She indicated that we should think about her niece (a nineteen yo daughter of her elder sister); she could take care of her and could be my future wife after her death. I knew this particular girl for a long time but I passed on that one... So we decided to try to get my wife's daughter a visa, she could take care of her and we would see later how to act on the future wife thing.

So I planned to travel to Thailand in order to take care of the paperwork (for her daughter) to get her to live with us as soon as possible.

So I spend three weeks in Thailand, took care of the paperwork for her planned visit to Europe in a couple of months. I took the papers back home with me in order to ask for a visa for family reunion.

Coming home I noticed the atmosphere had changed, could not put my finger on it but there was something going on. She (my wife) told me that her mom went to a future teller and he said that we would divorce soon. I don?t believe in these things and I told her so but nevertheless it all started to make sense; she was seeing someone else?

To be continued...

NongSung

[ February 10, 2002: Message edited by: NongSung ]