Mekong

Congratulations, Mekong. Hopefully, you meant to say you were able to salvage and resurrect your life, and not just your career.

Cheers dean,

But of course salvaging and resurrecting my life is a net result of getting my career back on track they tend to go hand in hand. It is rather ironic that I am now back in the same Engineering house in Thailand that "Let me go" four years ago, inside I knew the reason why my contract was not renewed but it was never mentioned but this time I am back as the Client representative so now my old boss is reporting to me, gotta love it when life turns full circle.

Passingthru69,

You are so correct in what you say about rebuilding trust and reputation, I know I definitely burned a lot of my bridges, 30 years of such can be destroyed in six months and even though one is clean who is going to give you a chance again? I got Lucky and someone gave me my chance. My main boss now is based in Houston TX and he was concerned about things being said out of the Madrid office about me, I was working in Madrid when the ex-wife told me it was over and it did effect me hard I went on 2-3 day benders then turned up at the office next morning still pissed, I did not give a good representation of myself. I told him straight what had happened and how I had returned to Thailand and put myself into Detox and his reply was

"I Don't care about your past, you are not the first and no doubt not the last, I have been down a similar road myself years ago and was given another chance, You blitzed the interview and your resume is head and shoulders above the other candidates, there are only two other people in the company know and as long as you are OK now it won't be a problem and will never be mentioned"

So I have been given another chance and there is no way I am going to blow it this time. The crazy thing is was the fact that I was a functioning alcoholic, I could pass judgement and make decisions as good as or better than the next man and I got the majority of my calls spot on, in fact all of my previous employers have no problem with issuing a Technical Reference for me, but they won't issue a personal reference

PT,

From what I have read of your posts over the past few years you have turned your life around, you short term loss has become your long term gain, come on mate how many truckers in the States are hauling rigs across country with their Thai wife by there side who actually takes an interest in your work and enjoys being with you, not many I bet.

So in return, hats off to you for turning your life around and long may it continue, nobody realises what a dark deep abyss alcoholism is until it is too late and it takes a strong mind and willpower to get out of that hole, not many of us can do it but sure as hell I want to be one of the minority just like yourself.

Kong

When he said ... "I do."

Before that, more than likely the first date!

Joking asides, it was my heavy drinking which led to Alcoholism, something I am not proud of but also something I would never deny happend. She could not tolerate my excessive drinking at the time but rather than try to help me all she did was nag all the time until she decided she had had enough when I was working overseas in Europe and threw me out lock stock and barrel.

It was when I returned to Thailand that I decided to do something about it and turn my life around and ironically the ex-wife during the proceedings saw me sober and decided she wanted to have me back "give it another go" there is no way I would have contemplated going back to her after what she put me through I am better off without her. I turned my life around without her and will continue to live it as such.

Don't get me wrong, I am no teetotaler who looks down his nose and sneers at people who drink, hey I still enjoy a night out and a few beers but the difference now is the fact that I can control the alcohol where as before for many years I allowed the alcohol to control me. I am not the first guy it has happened to and without doubt not the last, at least I was able to salvage and resurrect my career.

She tried for life insurance and was well pissed off when she realised that it's in my mothers name, the only woman I can trust.

Hence the reason I went after her for more than I actually Wanted / Expected, Court fees are 2% of what one is after and if settled outside of court one gets 80% back which is what happened in my scenario.

It's a win win situation, she is happy at negotiating me down to 75% of my initial claim where as I would have been happy with 50% of what I was after, the old trick "How much would you settle for? Double it"

Even though I have withdrawn all charges against her and her family Crown Prosecution are still pursuing a couple of them. First one is "Document Offences", I can tell the world now it's all over, she got her cousin who is a Doctor to issue a Death Certificate in my name and then sold my apartments as a widow, sorry I am still alive, Second offence is Transfer Tax, she reported to Land Registry a sale value of the Apartments at lot less than she sold them for.

So, I have allegedly abandoned her in August 2553, yet she came to see me in Spain October 2553, I have been declared Persona Non Gratia in Thailand and I have been declared dead, nasty piece of work she was, this is the shit I have been through the past 16 months but I am still smiling now even though I must admit the thought of paying a hitman 20K to put a bullet in her head did cross my mind on more than one occasion but I resisted temptation.

The future is bright, away from her money in the bank and now working for the biggest Oil Company in the world as resident engineer in an EPC office in Sri Racha and living in Pattaya during the week, Sweet!

Top Tip, you have 12 Months to petition for divorce or the Thai partner can claim abandonment and take 100%, that's what my ex tried, I petitioned in September 2554 and she claimed I left in August 2553, I had to get a court order for her to produce her passport and Credit Card statements to prove she was in Spain with me October 2553, there were no hotel bills on her CC because she was staying with me,

Five days after the event and I am still pinching myself, I fucking beat her, Thai Chinese egotistical bitch who thought her shit did not stink took on me a thick skinned Northern Englander who works in O&G and never admits defeat, shit I get more grief at the coffee machine in the morning than she tried to give me.

First she tried to get me Personna Non Gratia from Thailand, I won that, Next she stated "I get nothing I pay spouse support if I return" OK Next?

She got no spouse support but paid me to keep her ass out of jail, we read many stories of "Named Thais" using their connections to beat the Jurastiction it didn't work for her but I still don't know how I won I must have an innocent face before all the Judges I had to see.

I am looking forward to the next phase of my life.

Kong

PS

KS you can now return this thread to general discussions again now the battle is over!

Congratulations Mekong. I guess you are one of the few Farangs who used the Thai law system against an upper class family and to win.

 

(of course I don't have any numbers to support this)

Cheers kamui,

On numerous occasions I was tempted to just give in but I refused to give her the pleasure. The number of times I have had to listen to her Lawyer tell out and out lies in court then proceed with a character assassination of me, I am lucky I was only found in contempt of court twice over the past year or so, the Judges gave me an easy ride I think.

It has been a full time job, one should never rely on a Thai Lawyer to build your case for you, it is up to the Plaintiff to get all the evidence together and build the case file which entails going to each court in turn presenting a court order and explaining to the Judge why you want it signed, they never rejected any of mine, then delivering to the parties where order is applicable I must have run up 40,000 THB in Taxi fares alone.

The reason I settled for 90% is because I have just started a new job in Thailand so for one I don't have the time to invest in continuing to fight and for a second if she found out I was working here she could have been able to claim 50% of my income so she capitulated at just the right time. To be honest I don't think that the courts would have awarded me more than 75% of what I was after but she had the risk of having a criminal record and a bad credit rating for 10 years so she agreed to pay 90% as long as I dropped all charges.

Most of my charges against her and her family were "Compoundable" meaning that if I withdraw the prosecution then it goes no further, things such as Misappropriation, concealing assets etc but one charge is "Non Compoundable" which is a Document Offence, She lied to Land Registry Office stating on a form that she was Single when she was Married to sell one of my properties, now if Crown Prosecution wish to procede with this charge there is nothing I can do about it.

She could have paid up 16 months ago and saved me all of this hassle but she thought she was being clever so if CP decide to prosecute she has bought it onto herself, Som Nam Na!

For me, I can now just get on with my life, although it has been a rather interesting experience there is no way I want to go through that again.

P.S. Available for Consultations if any other BM finds themselves in the shit I was in!

Final update

I WON!

She backed down and agreed to pay me 90% of what I was after so we settled out of court.

Got the divorce certificate at Bang Rak City Hall a couple of hours ago and now the money is safely in my banks.

It's been a long hard battle but I stuck it out to the end.

allistar,

There is a difference between euthanasia and suicide

That's a real shocker!

 

Excellent director. Enemy of the State is still one of my all time favourite films.

 

He had inoperable Brain Cancer hence the reason he decided to end it.

Now if I was to find myself in such a predicament I would want to end it, I am all for euthanasia but I would not jump from a bridge.

Come on Munchie even us Sassanack's also observe the Sabbath, it is still unlawful to kill a Scotsman armed with a bow and arrow in york on a sunday, monday-saturday is hunting season mind you.

You posted the data I merely stated the fact!

 

 

It also showed the percentage of babies born to unmarried couples rose steadily from the 1970s until 2008.

 

In 2010 it was slightly more than 50% for Scotland as a whole, the same level as in the previous two years.

Confirms my understanding then that the majority of Jocks are Bastards!

I missed out on this when it was released but

Four Lions

A comedy about 4 incompetent British Jihadists and their bungled attempts at terror attacks, total tongue in cheek, no need to think and quite amusing

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My link

A mother in law said to her son's wife when the baby was born

"I don't mean to be rude, but he doesn't look anything like my son."

The daughter in law lifted her skirt and said,

"I don't mean to be rude either, but this is a fanny, not a f*cking photo copier

More fun and games today, allegedly another "Mediation" session, she upped the money some more but still nowhere near my figure yet so three more criminal cases against her next week also implicating her brother and her best friend. She looked scared today, honestly "Shit Scared" I could smell the fear (no she didn't shit herself).

She came out with a classic statement "I do not want a divorce really", I burst out laughing

Like for a start

1. She decided to throw me out of house when I was working overseas
   
2. She shipped all my belongings back to my Mothers house in UK without my permission
   
3. She used her family connections to try to get me PNG in Thailand
   

Now she wants me back, 55555 FUCK YOU BITCH, No way am I going back to that, pay up or face jail!

I have wasted enough time on this now, my case is based on evidence and her's is based on hearsay and the occasional email, I am in the process of having my "Official Translator" installed as my Power of Attorney to close this crap out whilst I go back to work 16 months is enough for me.

Next case is 17/7 Civil Infrindgment Damages, lets see what lies she tells in that case.

W

It's hotting up now, stay tuned!

I have just requested KS move this thread to Board Sponsors area until its all over with,

good luck today !

Cheers BB

Today she did not show yet again but her lawyer offered me triple than was offered in initial arbitration I told him to shove it, triple it again and we may be on the same page.

Hearing adjourned and reconvene on Friday for more negotiations, my negotiation is cough up or get sent down with the rest of your corrupt family. Currently my Lawyer and Translator are sat outside a restaurant we are dining at in deep conversation with the head of Land Vehicle Registerary Office, one of my witnesses. ... Silly little girl does not realize who I am calling as witness and her Lawyer doesn't give two shits.

Wow, I havent read up in here lately.

 

But, like Buddha, I think this is one of the most interesting threads I have read in here for a very long time.

 

Many farangs would have just cut their losses, instead of trying to fight a thai juridical system. As it is in most cases uphill, especially as a farang going to court facing a HiSo thai family.

But with that kind of money involved, I definitely understand and respect your persistence.

 

Hands up for you and best of luck.

Pescator,

Thanks for wishing me luck.

I have actually found the Thai Judicial system rather fair so far, every time I have made a court order asking for things it has been granted now this may be down to the fact that I am basically doing my own case and have a Thai lawyer as required, it has been I who has taken the court order to the relevant judges and made the request.

In my home country ( UK) I very much doubt I could go to the Old Bailey, sit with a Judge and ask him to sign a request for "Land Vehicle Office" (DVLC in UK) and ask for records of all vehicles she has had in her name since 2547 based on name and ID card number, I also very much doubt that I could get a request for Bank details ie Thanachart Bank every account in her name based on Name and ID card details, over here if you explain why and you give a good reason the request is signed.

Biggest problem is Thai Lawyers, they do as little as possible to bring the case to court but not much more, you really need to be ones own investigative lawyer to ensure all the I's are dotted and the T's are crossed, that is where many cases fall down here "Lack of Evidence" so if I do lose I only have myself to blame.

She is already out on bail from Dusit District Criminal Court for missappropriation, I have another case against her and her Brother for missappropriation / handling stolen goods, well actually multiple cases hence the reason it is at Ratchada Criminal Court it carries 5-10 years , district court only handles cases up to 2 years jail time, I already have some of her bank accounts frozen I will move to ask for the rest to be frozen later today, plus her CIMB Securites Account, BOT Funds, SCB Funds etc etc, you don't think I would send the bitch down without having her money frozen first.

Game on!

Just finished my testimony and got all my evidence sorted at last, first day at family court tomorrow should be fun.

Better still D/L from uTorrent for free

This is perhaps one of the most interesting threads I have ever read here...please continue to post, have continued good luck, and I agree about your decision to spare the dogs.

Thanks buddha for your feedback and support, not just about my ongoing case but also confirming that my decision to leave the dogs out of it was the correct one, it was a difficult decision to make but I feel it was the correct one. The more that people agree with my decision the easier it makes it for me.

Kong

I forgot to add the dogs spend most of the time with the maid so they won't miss the soon to be ex hopefully whilst she is behind bars

please do continue, but spell your name right

and what happened to your 2 dogs ?

 

BB

I sometimes fark up on my letter spacing when sat on my balcony smoking a fat one and posting from a tablet (computer not Ya E)

I spent the first 5 months of the time we had the dogs with them 24/7, I was between projects at the time, but I have not seen them for nearly 2 years now, and they are now used to a settled lifestyle. As much as I want fair compensation from my soon be be ex hopefully, I would never bring the dogs into it. They did nothing wrong and it would be wrong of me to disrupt their life's now as part of an argument between their co-owners, even I would not use that as leverage (I have enough against her without needing to resort to so low)

Do I miss my dogs? Yes

Do I love my dogs? Yes

Buti also recognize the fact that they are better off in scenario they have adapted to rather than take them away from such, that is how much I care for my dogs, I put their well being above my own vindictive aspirations

Cars, houses, investments have all been listed in my indictment, I never even mentioned the dogs, as I said they are innocent!

Kong ( correct spelling)