Need some advice from the guys

[BJ_Blackowitz]

I am approaching the big four Oh (40) and am in some kind of slum.

Both partnershipwise (9 years) as well as in proffesion I am getting fed up and can not get the hang of it

 

I had a similiar experience 12 years agoo and went travelling. I found out there that it wasn't that bad after all in Europe and went back after some somth to come back and be full of energy again , good job, met my now wife etc etc.

 

Would it be a good idea to travel 6 weeks without wife to LOS, CAMBO, LAOS semi-backpacking, to get rid of the urges, see the local life and refocus again, or would that be contra produktive , remeber I had 4 trips to the LOS in the last 12 Months all 10-14 days

 

what do YOU think

[Orangutan]

First try to get a better place, and move out of the slum your in now. Then by all means take a trip without the old lady. Any of the countries you mentioned will do. I was going through the same thing as you a couple of years ago, although without a wife. I was fed up with work, and the states. I sold, and gave away everything I had and moved to Thailand.

 

Six weeks is plenty of time to recharge the old batteries...and get in a few for the old willie.

 

Good luck to ya!-OT

[Zaad]

Both partnershipwise (9 years) as well as in proffesion I am getting fed up and can not get the hang of it.

 

Well, good thing is you seem to know where the problem lies.

Say you go on a 6-week trip, and then what? Back to the same old shit (no pun) you're in now?

 

As I see it you're not solving anything, merely avoiding it and postponing the even bigger problems.

Work on the things that have put you in such slum, change a few things relationship-wise as well as job-wise, and make and find goals to look forward to.

 

As I see it this trip is merely a temporary solution but what you need is a permanent one.

 

Just my two cents.

[BadaBing]

" what do YOU think "

 

I gotta agree with Zaad. If your at 40 and your life is in a (semi) quagmire , you better fix the present time matters first , have you ever thought about when your 50-60-70 etc , i'm talking " retirement " , i'm talking when , where and how.

 

What ever you do , good luck !

 

Bada Bing

[Encore]

>remeber I had 4 trips to the LOS in the last 12 Months all 10-14 days<

 

6 weeks isn't going to do much more then 10-14 days, except maybe totally finish your current relationship. If you want to do that, finish it first.

Then consider the options of a career change seriously, maybe with assistanjce of someone who specialises in advice on careers.

 

Then, if you got time and money left, by all means come to LOS for some time.

 

generally, I agree with all the above responses.

[KimDidMeGood]

Just for curosity, why do you think about a trip in Indochina instead of, let's say, Brasil or whatever?

[MadStockBroker]

Shave your head and go pray in a Temple for 6 months.

 

When you come out your balls will be the size of watermellons and you will spend then next 6 months shagging anything that moves. And quite possibly several that don't move.

[BJ_Blackowitz]

Had a few discussions with freidns, family and so on

 

I will do the travel stuff to SEA because of following reasons

1: The therapy has proven to work before.

2: I do need some time alone.

3: While I am "young" I want to do some extensive travel (not my wifes kind of past time)

4: When I come back a project will start that prevents me from taking my originally planned holiday in August.

 

I therefore see this as a way to refocus, recharge and relax.

 

Thanx everyone for the advice

 

Oh yeah. Trip start apr 6th

[KimDidMeGood]

Have fun !!!

[MaiLuk]

Remember this: Where ever you go, there you are

 

Chronic malcontents won't be happy for long no matter where they end up. I know. From personal experience.

 

Anyway, your age (and mine) is the time when you develop a need to move down a different road. Six weeks is not enough time to get to the end of it. Unless you get one of them suicidal moto taxi guys.