Need some advice from the guys

[BJ_Blackowitz]

I know, This process is allready going of for almost a year.

 

When doing the travel I WILL see people with way more problems then I have and with way less money and possibilities to improve.

Also the abstinence of IT work should reset my mind and recharge the Batteries ( both for endurance and for creativity )

 

I all that has not worked, I must see what else can be done, (medication, therapy, general change) but I will still have had a good trip I hope.

[Zaad]

Nice one MadStockBroker

 

I know guys here who fit that description without having set a foot in a temple.

[BJ_Blackowitz]

MadStockBroker said:

Shave your head and go pray in a Temple for 6 months.

 

When you come out your balls will be the size of watermellons and you will spend then next 6 months shagging anything that moves. And quite possibly several that don't move.

 

Shave the head ?? I am allready bald .

[bushpilot]

Sell everything, dump the wife, and buy a one-way ticket to bkk.

Get a job teaching english.

Make a point of never complaining about anything. Start looking at the world that way.

[BJ_Blackowitz]

allready did that once not teaching english, but as divmaster/instructor.

 

did not work

came back because of lack of intelectual chalenges

[zzzz]

I went through that problem. What you do is get a nice sports car. Make sure it's bright, mid-life crisis, red. That will just knock the problem right out.

[BJ_Blackowitz]

I drive a rather fast BMW. that did not work, I fly planes, did not work either

[gummigut]

Sounds like you are looking for something outside to bring together the turmoil inside of yourself.

 

I think the trip will help you ease what you feel you are missing, but it isn't going to solve your problem.

 

 

Hope I'm wrong!

 

<<burp>>

[Shit-Spattered Dog]

BJ_Blackowitz said:

 

 

Would it be a good idea to travel 6 weeks without wife to LOS, CAMBO, LAOS semi-backpacking, to get rid of the urges, see the local life and refocus again, or would that be contra produktive , remeber

what do YOU think

 

That's a good one, I am still laughting.

 

Rather like me. I never finished living ( or growing up?) in my early years. Other things, problems, etc..... When I reached my fourties I realizied I had strong feelings to pick up where I left off. This included smoking and backpacking.

 

After of short while of semi-backpacking ( forced myself not to buy a new hostel card and euro-rail card ) I came to a frighting conclusion: I want to stay in 1th class hotels, travel business class, fuck the higher price whores....etc....Where was I getting this backpacking shit from?

 

I figured I lived as a reclusive during most of my life and the longings of a better life never left. But the longings and feelings are that of a younger man. Remember that you will be experiencing this new life as a fourty + man.

 

I do not mean to rain on your parade but this is the new realitiy.

 

As for me, I re-thought my life. Force myself not to start smoking again (after 25 years.) And to save my money until I have enough to live the life I want to live while traveling....including hotels with nice pools, great airlines, hot nightclubs, good food....hot chicks ( younger of course.)

 

Shit.

[JJsushi]

If ur like me u get really bored with certain shit quickly. I left my career 2x and could have been a multi-millionaire by now if I stuck with it. Boredom is also the reason my I can't sustain a long term committed relationship. Always looking for the "next" thing or the challenge.

 

I thought of moving to LOS several times but realized I would go bonkers if I did from lack of challenges and stimulation. I am not in my forties so I have no idea if what u r having is a mid life crisis, but I can tell that your sort of like me which is shark like. Sharks have to keep swimming because if they don't they will die.

I figured out a while ago that for me the "place" or destination or result is actually minor. What keeps me going is the "process".