Roadkill - the Flip Side of the Story - Recent Fun & Games

[YimSiam]

the more money thrown at them, the less they respect the guy throwing it

 

Agree they often see it as desperate and womanly for a guy to sponsor, especially when he's paying above her market value or going to demeaning lengths, like the calls to Dao. Doesn't mean much though - there's usually little respect to begin with.

 

Personally, I don't see anything wrong with guys sponsoring -- the whole LOS mongering thing is about delusion and pleasure, and there's not much difference in my mind between a guy who pays 30k a month to some girl as sponsorship and feels good about it while he jerks off at home thinking she's into him, and a guy who pays thirty girls he thinks like him 1k a night for ST and feels good about that. Whatever turns you on...

 

For those who like to suss out the hot young thing with the tight body and get her to a hotel room for some almost-porn-like sex, sponsoring has probably fucked things up - the hot girls get taken out of the scene quickly, or only choose guys who pay amounts that make the risk to sponsorship worthwhile, or who give a lot of face. But for those who like the GFE thing, even the twelve-hour mini version, and those who want to play White Knight, the rise of sponsorship might be blessing: a new incentive to provide top service, to create for the guy the sense of intimacy or dependency or vulnerability that many are looking - and willing to pay monthly instalments - for.

 

A second story, a shade darker, though Cent may find light here as well: a couple years ago I was drinking alot in bkk, waking to familiar hangovers and unknown TGs. One morning I found myself face-to-face with a middle-aged Gallic-looking man who had only a fringe of hair around his bald head, and an unattractive double-chin... or rather, the tattoed image of such a man, inked in detail on this girl's shoulder blade. The girl told me that the guy, her fiance, paid her to get the tattoo (at least deterring doggy-style and anal, I suppose) and was sponsoring her while she took some months-long series of tests, to ensure she was HIV-free... When I pointed out that - as a result of my booze-diminished mental and physical capacity - we had just barebacked a few hours before, and then tried and failed to do it a second time, she shrugged - 'have one more test, then finished, get visa,' she said, 'doesn't matter.'

 

YimSiam

 

PS: tattoo details changed to avoid causing marital disharmony...

[LookieLookie]

But the 'hot' girls aren't taken out of the scene. They may not work in a bar anymore, or may never have in the first place, but they are still hanging around the scene and fucking other guys. At best they don't go out banging guys as much because they are getting more money and going out drinking with their mates. They are very much still in the scene. In fact it usually means they are taking on younger guys and hanging out on Kho san road or places not full of the stereotypical singha wearing ugly buggers. Go to CM2 and I bet there are hordes of girls in their being sponsored and still plying their trade. I know three girls who I'm with regularly who I've run into their and gone home with who take me back to their apartments full of pictures of their 'boyfriend'. Sponsorship is for men with zero self esteem. They think sponsoring is the only way they can keep a girl.

[Gadfly]

Cent and Mekong make some excellent points. I particularly like the point about how the 30,000 Baht a month could be put to such better use.

 

Guys are buying an illusion, but I think the point about how the 30,000 a month spent on sponsorship could be used instead to make payments on a condo in Pattaya could be very persuasive. Perhaps persuasive enough to break the illusion.

 

If you have a friend or you meet someone in sponsorship situation, this is probably one of the strongest points you could make: he could buy himself a place to stay in Pattaya with the money he is spending (wasting) on sponsorship.

[Mekong]

If you have a friend or you meet someone in sponsorship situation, this is probably one of the strongest points you could make: he could buy himself a place to stay in Pattaya with the money he is spending (wasting) on sponsorship.

 

I actualy have people who look upon me as a good friend in Thailand now because they listened to this very same argument in the past and acted accordingly, the dream actualy cost less than the illusion / delussion, or as Homer would say DOH!

 

It is sometimes near impossible to rationalise with a "but mine is differant" mentality and a lot of people have snubbed my advice, I have waved bye bye to many of them over the years. I often compare Thailand to a casino, only put in what you can afford to loose, Casino's are fun places when you are on a roll and anyone who is prepared to think with the big head rather than the little one could be onto a winner, it cannot be that difficult since I survive here.

 

The bottom line is, to any potemtial sponsor, if you can afford that level of investment then invest in your own future, ten years down the line you will realise that it is the correct decision.