Hatuay Posted June 6, 2008 Report Share Posted June 6, 2008 I am sorry, didn't learn the quote button but it was in response to this post From MEkhong: "555555 This concept makes me laugh all the time, do you not realise that not all Thais are from poor backgrounds who's families have not got a pot to piss in, there actualy is a Middle Class and Upper Class as well but I suppose a lot of people are not exposed that that part of society or or not even interested in it." Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
panadolsandwich Posted June 9, 2008 Author Report Share Posted June 9, 2008 I've been in that situation, and how do you manage to convince a Thai girl who is rather well off and happy in Thailand to move abroad. And face the problems that brings. So do you turn your own life around and move there when you aren't well equipped to do it or what? I once knew a girl whom drank 300 baht colas in a *discotheque* deep beneath Khao San road designed to keep the riff raff out. She was heir to a fortune that could easily buy an English premier league football club (her dad is pals with Thaksin). She was chauffeured every where she went, sometimes with a police escort and even a quaint ambulance following; perchance there was a mishap. I never asked but the nuance was always there and was it possible? Was she related to the King? Or in other words, what happens when you land the big one? The love of your life; the papaya of your eye? How do you persuade someone that has everything to dash it all and take up with you in a two up two down fuck off gaff in Camden town? Or do you 'immigrate' and live the good life? Do you consider yourself 'well equipped'? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sidsanuk Posted June 9, 2008 Report Share Posted June 9, 2008 Why do farangs marry their Thai girlfriends? I'm asking the question quite seriously, because I may be naive, but I can't really see the upside of doing it. .......... Why even countenance paying the greedy parents out to show off to their neighbours just how much of a mug they took you in for? IMHO, I would suggest that a) You may not be the type of person who wants to marry any girl, Thai or otherwise and You should probably not contemplate marrying a Thai girl as the cultural issues may cause you undue angst :smirk: So, why did I marry my Thai girlfriend. Quite simple: I love her dearly I want to spend the rest of my life with her I want to show her the respect that marrying her publicly displays I wanted to show respect for her parents, rather than insisting we 'live in sin' I want her to have all the legal protections that marriage grants over merely being a defacto Last and least........it made getting a permanent visa here in Australia a lot easier Same reasons anyone marries someone I guess Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
panadolsandwich Posted June 9, 2008 Author Report Share Posted June 9, 2008 Why do farangs marry their Thai girlfriends? I'm asking the question quite seriously' date=' because I may be naive, but I can't really see the upside of doing it. .......... Why even countenance paying the greedy parents out to show off to their neighbours just how much of a mug they took you in for? [/quote'] IMHO, I would suggest that a) You may not be the type of person who wants to marry any girl, Thai or otherwise and You should probably not contemplate marrying a Thai girl as the cultural issues may cause you undue angst :smirk: So, why did I marry my Thai girlfriend. Quite simple: I love her dearly I want to spend the rest of my life with her I want to show her the respect that marrying her publicly displays I wanted to show respect for her parents, rather than insisting we 'live in sin' I want her to have all the legal protections that marriage grants over merely being a defacto Last and least........it made getting a permanent visa here in Australia a lot easier Same reasons anyone marries someone I guess In other words... you love her right? And fair enough too. I wish you a world of happiness. Perhaps you're right, I'm not suitable for marriage and a loss cause. I'm the very philanderer of hearts, the lost cause of romance, forever forgetting to say goodbye. How I wish it were like that! No, I'm stuck on this one girl; we could be adjoined at the hip, she never leaves me alone. She is the temptress the master magician, sister to eros, she is everything that is wholesome to me. She is the rainbow that leads me to the islands of the blessed. But... I don't know what it drives me to throw it all away. Like you, I want to honour the parents, however I feel the parents won't honour me. You can smirk all you like. Did you pay respects, or merely pay your dues? Do the in-laws tap you for cash? Do you pay them? For your wife? Eh? If I marry her I don't need no legal protection. I don't need to pay no respect. I don't need to pay the villagers no respect in all that a public wedding involves; I don't need to participate in the no respect orgy of it all. How dearly I wish I could marry her in all those sanguine dreams I had as a babe, with champagne and lobsters and the sun flashing off upturned silver forks! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hub2324 Posted July 9, 2008 Report Share Posted July 9, 2008 Why do farangs marry their Thai girlfriends? I'm asking the question quite seriously' date=' because I may be naive, but I can't really see the upside of doing it. .......... Why even countenance paying the greedy parents out to show off to their neighbours just how much of a mug they took you in for? [/quote'] IMHO, I would suggest that a) You may not be the type of person who wants to marry any girl, Thai or otherwise and You should probably not contemplate marrying a Thai girl as the cultural issues may cause you undue angst :smirk: So, why did I marry my Thai girlfriend. Quite simple: I love her dearly I want to spend the rest of my life with her I want to show her the respect that marrying her publicly displays I wanted to show respect for her parents, rather than insisting we 'live in sin' I want her to have all the legal protections that marriage grants over merely being a defacto Last and least........it made getting a permanent visa here in Australia a lot easier Same reasons anyone marries someone I guess A lot of the same reasons I married mine. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hub2324 Posted July 9, 2008 Report Share Posted July 9, 2008 Why do farangs marry their Thai girlfriends? I'm asking the question quite seriously' date=' because I may be naive, but I can't really see the upside of doing it. .......... Why even countenance paying the greedy parents out to show off to their neighbours just how much of a mug they took you in for? [/quote'] IMHO, I would suggest that a) You may not be the type of person who wants to marry any girl, Thai or otherwise and You should probably not contemplate marrying a Thai girl as the cultural issues may cause you undue angst :smirk: So, why did I marry my Thai girlfriend. Quite simple: I love her dearly I want to spend the rest of my life with her I want to show her the respect that marrying her publicly displays I wanted to show respect for her parents, rather than insisting we 'live in sin' I want her to have all the legal protections that marriage grants over merely being a defacto Last and least........it made getting a permanent visa here in Australia a lot easier Same reasons anyone marries someone I guess In other words... you love her right? And fair enough too. I wish you a world of happiness. Perhaps you're right, I'm not suitable for marriage and a loss cause. I'm the very philanderer of hearts, the lost cause of romance, forever forgetting to say goodbye. How I wish it were like that! No, I'm stuck on this one girl; we could be adjoined at the hip, she never leaves me alone. She is the temptress the master magician, sister to eros, she is everything that is wholesome to me. She is the rainbow that leads me to the islands of the blessed. But... I don't know what it drives me to throw it all away. Like you, I want to honour the parents, however I feel the parents won't honour me. You can smirk all you like. Did you pay respects, or merely pay your dues? Do the in-laws tap you for cash? Do you pay them? For your wife? Eh? If I marry her I don't need no legal protection. I don't need to pay no respect. I don't need to pay the villagers no respect in all that a public wedding involves; I don't need to participate in the no respect orgy of it all. How dearly I wish I could marry her in all those sanguine dreams I had as a babe, with champagne and lobsters and the sun flashing off upturned silver forks! Who says you can't have the lobster and silver forks? Our wedding reception was on the Chao Praya on a cruise boat after a small ceremony at Wat Arun. I don't think there was lobster, but I think some champagne was opened as well as the JW blue, single malt , aged rum, and grey goose we paid corkage fees for and there were definitely crab and large prawns! The Thai and Falang relatives both loved it. Before you ask, no sin sot (some of her mothers side wanted one and didn't show up at the wedding-good riddance), Thai relatives (coming from several places as far as Hua Hin) also gave us some small money gifts and her father gave me a 24-carat gold buddha necklace and amulet before the wedding. Only have given her mother money for care of our son before his visa was granted. Prenup in place and she works and contributes financially to the family coffers. You can sometimes set your own rules and not everything has to happen as read on a message board. As I said, some relatives and even my wife's sister tried to set the rules (sin sot probably just was the start) and we balked, resulting in only the ones that really had good feelings for us (0r as you say - respect)coming to the wedding! :content: I can understand why that scenario would be tougher for some (my wife did get a lot of pressure from a few individuals), especially a young girl. I was lucky my wife was already thinking about OUR family (us and son) and was working and also didn't want to give away her hard earned also. Believe me, I respect her culture (had to squat for way too long in that friggin temple and put my time in with her family), but at some point you have to look after yourself and for those who don't like it, f*&k em. Coming up on three years in a week and half, knock on wood. Glad I wrote this, as I completely forgot we had an anniversary coming and now have some time to get something. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cavanami Posted July 9, 2008 Report Share Posted July 9, 2008 I once knew a girl whom drank 300 baht colas in a *discotheque* deep beneath Khao San road designed to keep the riff raff out. She was heir to a fortune that could easily buy an English premier league football club (her dad is pals with Thaksin). She was chauffeured every where she went' date=' sometimes with a police escort and even a quaint ambulance following; perchance there was a mishap. I never asked but the nuance was always there and was it possible? Was she related to the King? Or in other words, what happens when you land the big one? The love of your life; the papaya of your eye? How do you persuade someone that has everything to dash it all and take up with you in a two up two down fuck off gaff in Camden town? Or do you 'immigrate' and live the good life? Do you consider yourself 'well equipped'? [/quote'] The King's first born, a daughter, went and married an American. Produced some children but is now divorced from the American. The King (or others in the Thai gov) took away her title of "princess" and was said to be very unpleased with her being married to an American. They lived in the USA for some years but now she is back in Thailand. So you can "land a big one" but maybe you can not keep it or it suddenly gets reduced to a "small one". Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EasySt Posted July 10, 2008 Report Share Posted July 10, 2008 Why do farangs marry their Thai girlfriends? I'm asking the question quite seriously' date=' because I may be naive, but I can't really see the upside of doing it. .......... Why even countenance paying the greedy parents out to show off to their neighbours just how much of a mug they took you in for? [/quote'] IMHO, I would suggest that a) You may not be the type of person who wants to marry any girl, Thai or otherwise and You should probably not contemplate marrying a Thai girl as the cultural issues may cause you undue angst :smirk: So, why did I marry my Thai girlfriend. Quite simple: I love her dearly I want to spend the rest of my life with her I want to show her the respect that marrying her publicly displays I wanted to show respect for her parents, rather than insisting we 'live in sin' I want her to have all the legal protections that marriage grants over merely being a defacto Last and least........it made getting a permanent visa here in Australia a lot easier Same reasons anyone marries someone I guess A lot of the same reasons I married mine. Yea, I see girls like this all the time on TLL. Living in Sweden-divorced, Germany-divorced, UK-divorced. Marriage is a fools game IMHO. You get better odds playing black jack. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hub2324 Posted July 11, 2008 Report Share Posted July 11, 2008 Yea' date=' I see girls like this all the time on TLL. Living in Sweden-divorced, Germany-divorced, UK-divorced. Marriage is a fools game IMHO. You get better odds playing black jack. [/quote'] Your post is a bit incomprehensible. What is TLL? Marriage may not be your bag, thats fine as I felt the same for awhile. The odds are up to you, who you decide to marry and what you make of it, not the random flip of a card. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sidsanuk Posted July 13, 2008 Report Share Posted July 13, 2008 But... I don't know what it drives me to throw it all away. Like you, I want to honour the parents, however I feel the parents won't honour me. You can smirk all you like. Did you pay respects, or merely pay your dues? Do the in-laws tap you for cash? Do you pay them? For your wife? Eh? If I marry her I don't need no legal protection. I don't need to pay no respect. I don't need to pay the villagers no respect in all that a public wedding involves; I don't need to participate in the no respect orgy of it all. How dearly I wish I could marry her in all those sanguine dreams I had as a babe, with champagne and lobsters and the sun flashing off upturned silver forks! I am certainly no expert on Thai/Western relationships and have had to work at it. It ain't always easy. But mate. You ain't ready......by a looooong way. Don't even think about it :-) If you want to learn more, and I think you need to, this is a great book. My wife and I read it last week. Left page in English, right page in Thai. She thought it was great. Even after being together for 7 years, we learnt a lot. Book - Thailand Fever Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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