What do Thai girls really want

[Khun004]

I'm thinking the girls who work the bars and go-gos must have a short shelf life.

Exactly right.

"Short shelf life" is a common observation in many posts on all forums about this aspect of Thailand.

 

Once they get older and lose their looks what do they do ?

Interesting question, because it uncovers the fundamental motivations of Thai women we meet.

In Bangkok, we see the young and fresh.

But above age 35-40, they disappear.

Where do they go?

 

If they have children, or other family willing and able to take care of them, they will return up-country to live out their days.

What do they do?

They become "grandma", taking care of the babies of the next generation of young women who go to the cities for work.

And the cycle repeats.

 

what are they looking for?

When I talk with Thai girls in the city, they repeatedly say, "Me want man take care me."

(Of course, "me" includes their family.)

 

do they have any ambition, goals, dreams ?

No, they don't.

They may say they want to open a beauty shop, or study English in Australia, or see snow in Norway.

But they have no practical plans for doing any of that: just idle dreams.

They are so poor, with so little education, and such narrow horizons, that their lives resemble a lottery.

We are the jackpot.

 

I'm sure if you arranged for a girl to come to the UK she would find it difficult to adjust, get bored, miss her family and friends etc. Would they be happy to sit at home while you were out at work all day ?

Exactly.

There have been countless posts, on many forums, of men who have tried that.

Thai women are hothouse flowers.

Outside Thailand they quickly lose their bloom.

 

I tried asking these questions to one girl but she had no real answers, it was almost like they just lived one day to the next.

There is no "almost" about it.

They do live one day to the next.

Advance planning is not in their thinking.

 

Of course, a few exceptions to all of this, but very rare.

 

She has been asking me for money which everyone has told me would happen ... but just cannot get my head around what she really wants.

She wants, "Man take care me."

 

Sounds like she is playing you for the long game.

She will try you and test you for months or even a few years, to see what you are willing and able to provide for her.

 

I plan to see her next year and go with her to Phuket

Carrying coals to Newcastle.

Whenever you get to Phuket, there will 1,000 just like her, already there, waiting and eager to meet you.

 

And, please remember your own comment about "short shelf life".

Next year she will be a different person, not the same.

Save yourself the aggravation and disappointment: Whenever you go to Phuket, just pick out a fresh one there.

As convenient as care-hire.

 

Of course, most of us learn this lesson the hard way -- by personal experience -- rather than learning from reading the experiences of others.

I'm one who had to learn the hard way.