Encore Posted May 31, 2004 Report Share Posted May 31, 2004 Cent said:ik, Surely you can understand why this isn't cool? Cent Of course I do, Cent. But I was merely suggesting that she deserves the benefit of doubt, and if someone can help her in an appropriate way,it may be worth doing. I wasn't opposed to name being removed, only wanted to not leave it at that. I think there are probably quite a few people in LOS (and elsewhere) in her situation, and I understand their wish to make contact. Considering they had no choice in the decision to be conceived, and never had the opportunity to have the benefit of having a father, I think those who are genuine deserve all the help they can get Conversely, if I had unwittingly sired a child I didn't know about, I think I'd want to know, and have contact of some kind. In fact, although I would be shocked, I think I'd also be overjoyed. I do agree of course that any such approach would have to be made carefully, and discreetly. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gummigut Posted June 1, 2004 Report Share Posted June 1, 2004 "Would you want someone to post your personal info here because some Thai girl claimed to someone on an internet Thai chat-board that you were her father? I don't think so." If it was done decently, like this, no I wouldn't mind as I would want to know. If it's done in the following manner: "I'm looking for my father. He got my mother pregnant while she worked at 'Lick My Butt' bar as a gogo girl blah blah blah. That's a different story. <<burp>> Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
torrenova Posted June 1, 2004 Report Share Posted June 1, 2004 Use BT to check for a telephone number www.bt.com then perhaps use www.192.com (some services require payment) to check current address. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lembeh Posted June 3, 2004 Report Share Posted June 3, 2004 there are several UK name search web sites, as well as one I saw a while ago that is specifically to try to locate people (such like old class mates, or parents or kids lost - pretty much anyone really). You can leave messages as well as all the details you have there. Sorry cannot recall the name or web address off hand. Another way to start might just be a google or alta vista search on the full name - may pop up a few leads. -j- Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
keekwai Posted June 4, 2004 Report Share Posted June 4, 2004 >>Conversely, if I had unwittingly sired a child I didn't know about, I think I'd want to know, and have contact of some kind<< I have a friend in the US had contact with a child he'd sired eighteen years before. Actually he was contacted by a lawyer and sued (successfully) for eighteen years of child support. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Central Scrutinizer Posted June 4, 2004 Report Share Posted June 4, 2004 ikkrang said: Cent said:ik, Surely you can understand why this isn't cool? Cent Of course I do, Cent. But I was merely suggesting that she deserves the benefit of doubt, and if someone can help her in an appropriate way,it may be worth doing. I wasn't opposed to name being removed, only wanted to not leave it at that. I think there are probably quite a few people in LOS (and elsewhere) in her situation, and I understand their wish to make contact. Considering they had no choice in the decision to be conceived, and never had the opportunity to have the benefit of having a father, I think those who are genuine deserve all the help they can get Conversely, if I had unwittingly sired a child I didn't know about, I think I'd want to know, and have contact of some kind. In fact, although I would be shocked, I think I'd also be overjoyed. I do agree of course that any such approach would have to be made carefully, and discreetly. Ikkrang, Well said. Maybe KS can make a section, or put something in the faq regarding this sort of thing. So people would know how he'd like this done on the board, if he wants this done at all. Whatever is done though, needs to be done through him or the mods though. I understand your concern for the woman's plight, and it is admirable. Cent Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
.. Posted June 6, 2004 Report Share Posted June 6, 2004 gummigut said:"she worked at 'Lick My Butt' bar LOL! Damn that was one fine bar. Too bad it's no longer around ! Cheers, SD Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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