Steve Posted May 28, 2005 Report Share Posted May 28, 2005 Is it impossible to successfully date or marry a falang after frequenting LOS? Have the women in LOS spoiled us or rather 'opened up' our eyes to what it could be? I recently broke up with my falang gf. The girl fit my prequisites. She had no 'drama', very low mainentence, seemingly easy going. She was also attractive physically (24, 5'2", 105 lbs). She was a relation to a family I know very well. A family that has treated me like one of their own so I was very careful not to do anything that would ruin that relationship so I was on my best behavior. She was the first falang girlfriend I've had this century (yeah, only 5 years into it but it seems more profound to state it that way...lol) and certainly the first in almost a decade. This was one of the rare relationships where I think I did everything right. Usually, I end up cheating or doing something to give the girl good reason to leave. This time I was attentive, romantic, etc. However, she turned out to be somewhat controlling with latent signs of male hostility. Without getting into too much detail (unless you want it), it ended with her simply not calling me. The game that I usually do when I want out. Fortunately I'm still in good graces with the family as they saw that I did treat her well. I think the problems started when I showed a backbone. Now before you say, Steve, she is 24. I've had this issue with women older than her and in their 30s. One thing falang women (and this could possibly apply to all women) do is they sometimes mistakenly take kindness for weakness. I've dated falang women while going to LOS but nothing more than flings. There are a few that thought I was their boyfriend (and truth be known I may have led them to believe this) but I was never exclusive in practice. This time I was. I thought I'd try this monogamy thing people bang on about. I can tell you, its benefits are greatly exaggerated! My main issue though is that while I was in this relationship, there are things that I know a TG would have been done right that my ex falang gf did wrong. Things that upset me and most men. I have told friends here in the states a few years back that I was 'ruined' from ever having an American wife after going to Asia. That if I married an American women she would have to be a recent arrival, naturalized citizen from somewhere else and not have grown up here. Maybe I'm being too harsh on American women and don't let them get away with things that I would have if she were Thai? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
check_bin_krap Posted May 28, 2005 Report Share Posted May 28, 2005 Humm Steve. I have not seen that much difference in womens expectations. Never mind where they come from. But I always hear the guys from US moaning about this? Maybe its a US thing? You are comparing US - LOS . Maybe the home lady team here sucks too much, and also there could be other opponents than the ones you prefer Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BadaBing Posted May 28, 2005 Report Share Posted May 28, 2005 Wah wah wah wah , my heart bleeds for her.. er I mean you , she sounds like your dreamy girl CS , with putting up with your soccer madness and that passion of finding that 3rd input and all If you need a free dinner and a shoulder to cry on , let me know Bada Bing Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
monkey39 Posted May 28, 2005 Report Share Posted May 28, 2005 chocolat steve said:I think the problems started when I showed a backbone. Can you give a specific example? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Steve Posted May 28, 2005 Author Report Share Posted May 28, 2005 You may have guessed it bada bing. The 3rd input was definitely a no no with this one. Eureka! You've found the problem to my falang relationships!! CBK, stay away from American women. They have elevated the art of breaking your balls (and your spirit) to an artform. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Steve Posted May 28, 2005 Author Report Share Posted May 28, 2005 monkey39 said: chocolat steve said:I think the problems started when I showed a backbone. Can you give a specific example? Her last boyfriend was 23. I found out later on that she dominated the relationship. She would critique any decision I do or any decision I make. It all kicked off one weekend. She was on her period so maybe that had something to do with it as well. She asked me to drive her to a store. Then complain that I was taking a longer route than necessary. I was escorting her to a wedding of a friend of hers. She doesn't know how to get there. I've been to that area and go the way I know how, calls someone attending and says take such and such street. I don't know such and such street I say, I'll get lost that way, my way, we'll definitely reach. Those are minor. She says she loves beards she says. I don't have one. Wants me to grow one. I don't want to grow one as I like them. She complains. I say 'I didn't have a beard when you met me did I?' That answer has too much logic in it apparantly. I drive a car with a stick, the clutch has been giving me some problems, however in her mind, I can't drive a stick. Makes little snide comments about 'are you sure you can drive a stick?'. Eventually, the clutch does fail (which she was in it when it did..haha...joking). These aren't the loving, teasing things that couples do, but the 'rolling of the eyes' and 'sneer' ones. We go to a female friends of mine house for a get together. My friend teases me about something jokingly. Very inncocous. My ex gf's comments on the way back that the best part of the evening was my female friend's coments about me not listening (the latent male hostility part) and its said with a snigger. I've been exercising a bit, trying to eat right and she'll want me to eat some the junk food she's eating and I beg off and she says 'oh, so now you don't want eat any candy from me, but you'll eat some of anyway. I tell her its hard enough trying to stay away from the junk food without others offering me some, and this in a nice tone of voice. Generally questioning any little decision I make. They are small and seem petty and silly but after the 10th or 20th time in a day it gets on ones nerves. All this happened over a weekend. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stickman Posted May 28, 2005 Report Share Posted May 28, 2005 After a few years in Thailand, I started to find Western women attractive again. To me a truly attractive Western woman is no different to a truly attractive Thai woman. I simply believe that there are more physically attractive Thai women than farang women and that Thai women are easier to meet. But once in a relationship, it is my belief that things are MUCH easier with a Western woman than a Thai woman. Stick Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
monkey39 Posted May 28, 2005 Report Share Posted May 28, 2005 Hey, I think I know that chick! :: Seriously, sounds like you made the right call when you dumped her ass. To me, behavior like shows a basic lack of respect for your partner, male or female, and, believe me, I've seen men pull the same sort of shit! I don't think it would fair to tar all falang women with that brush, though. I have plenty of female friends here in Texas who are genuinely nice people, and who support their boyfriend/husband in a truely positive way. From your profile, I'm assuming she was from L.A., like you? I've noticed that the general behavior and attitude for Americans are different depending on the region that they matriculated from. For instance, and this is a gross generalization, I tend to find women from the Northeast coast to be a bit abrasive to my Southern sensibilities. Of course, being a Southern ex-jock, ex-punker, ex-neo hippie, ex-stoner (recent development :, generally laid-back go-with-the-flow kinda guy, unnecessarily pushy, critical women tend to grate on my nerves! Anyway, as far as Thai vs Falang women, I read something somewhere (maybe Stickman's site?) where a Thai women stated, when comparing herself to Falang women, that she would rather be a first-class woman than a second-class man. I think in the Western world, women are still trying to define their roles in the gender wars, and men are trying to figure out how to react to that. It definitely can lead to friction and misunderstanding - I'm sure I don't have to tell you that! The primitive man in me sure is attracted to the care and attention Thai women seem to lavish on their men, but the Western man in me is also drawn to the independence and capability of Falang women. Not sure if I can make a call on which is better - I guess I want a woman who treats me right, but who is not completely dependant upon me for her welfare, emotional or physical. My 2 cents, monkey39 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nervous_Dog Posted May 28, 2005 Report Share Posted May 28, 2005 Stick - agree fully, they all look good! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
monkey39 Posted May 28, 2005 Report Share Posted May 28, 2005 Stickman said:After a few years in Thailand, I started to find Western women attractive again. To me a truly attractive Western woman is no different to a truly attractive Thai woman. I simply believe that there are more physically attractive Thai women than farang women and that Thai women are easier to meet. But once in a relationship, it is my belief that things are MUCH easier with a Western woman than a Thai woman. Stick Too true - at least Western women get all my stupid jokes and references! :: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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