Non-BG/Prost. Thai women Marriages to Americans

[Pescator]

Hi kjvegas,

 

That is an unreal story.

That was probably her chance of a life time and she blows it within 6 months! Incredible, especially sicne she also have 2 kids to consider.

A single thai mother with two kids in Thailand can face a very hard time if she doesn`t have supportive family.

Of course there are always two sides of the coin, but from what you write it sure seems like she was the one who fucked up big time.

 

Cheers

Hua Nguu

 

[jasmine]

Hi,

 

First, I am sorry about what you had to go through.

 

What I wrote was about Thai women with at least high school education and none of these women gambles. Some get together to play cards but no gambling. I have met many others who did not fit on education criteria, so I did not mention gambling.

 

One serious concern about Thai women and many other Asians, no matter what education level is gambling. I have seen disaster happened with many of them and I meant many.

 

My father who was a patrol policeman gambled most of his inheritance away, the worst case was that he left home with a Mercedes and came home with a bicycle. He did not drink nor fooled around and he loved us, but the gambling was disease for him that he had a hard time controlling it. To solve the problem, my mother hid away money; gold and he gave an amount to my mother that he could not it back, that was how he had to be handled. However, he quit the gambling when I was 10 and by the time he got killed on duties when I was 16, there was still a lot of debt. My uncle, who has a Univ. degree, is just about the same.

 

I visited Las Vegas many times in my younger days and I know that I can gamble so I don?t even go near those facilities, period except with my husband because he is my ?rock?. I even don?t like playing any cards or slot machines, however, if I started, I would have had a hard time stopping. My only brother never gambles but he thinks that we have inherited disease for his 18 yrs. old son now has a tendency to gamble.

 

I have known a very nice women who has been in the US for over 35 yrs. who gambled over $500,000 her husband left her when he died, away within 6 years. Her late husband was one of the best men I have ever met and all he did was saving money. No one could stop her, as much as she has loved me, I was cussed away when I even mentioned about money management. She is in her sixties now, has to work in a grocery store and rents a little trailer. Just darn right shame.

 

IMO, You are actually lucky to be away from her.

 

Good Luck,

 

Jasmine ::

 

[jasmine]

[color:"red"] I feel like her true colors came out when she associated with Thai people. I do feel some relationships between Thai woman and Americans can work out but most are looking to come here and get their green cards in two years, they are mostly loyal to their own kind). I am a young fairly decent guy in good shape and I make a great living. This girl associates herself with out of shape drunken losers who gamble and have no money. [/color]

 

Many people like me do not associate with the Thais on daily basis. Like anywhere, ones must pick friends/associates carefully. I was here the first time when I was only 16 and I have found no need for a Thai company.

 

However, many Thais, especially females seem to gravitate towards other Thais and bad influlence happens.

 

Ones must understand that the Thais need Thai family supports and Thai association. Many of them cannot be satisfied until the association is found, no matter how bad the Thais they associate with are. This need can stem from the way many Thai women are brought up, ie. to be accomodating and not practice their judgments or making decisions on their own much.

 

There were a couple threads that mentioned the care ones must take for their Thai spouses on the friendship with other Thais. I agree wholeheartedly that ones have to watch out when making friends with other Thais.

 

What really pisses me off a lot is, sooner or later, these Thais seem to want money from me. The asking can come in various forms such as loans, donation, etc. The last one even asked me for money in a temple!!! When it comes to thank you, most of these Thais have no such word.

 

People, I do not want to be so negative, however, after 32 yrs. living abroad, the ones who are good do not come in my path very often.

 

Cheers!

[jasmine]

Hi,

 

[color:"red"] Thai's, is not the reason for her actions. Something else going on here. I must say, yours is not the usual scenario presented here. Unmarried GTG with two kids, get's the opportunity to come to US with new house, own new car, and loving husband, and then does a total 180 within a few months? Don't get me wrong...many will do a 180, but not until they have set the stage to walk away with retirement for themselves, or a better prospect. [/color]

 

HT, I don't think that this was the first time this woman gambled. However, many Thai females can be influenced easily, especially by a Thai man. It is a culture thing and most Thai women were brought up to respect men (mind you, if you are a non-Thai/Asian), that respect may not be there.

 

This is one of the things most Westerners find it hard to understand about Thai women/Thai men relationship. I have seen some Thai women behave completely differently than when they were around foreign men.

 

Why do we hear about many Thai women who married non-Thai husbands but keep sending money to their Thai husbands? Why do the BG who perform sex for money but turn around give it to Thai BF or hire Thai male prostitues?

 

I have no intimate experience with Thai men, however, many women told me that something about the Thai men make them more satisfied and I don't think they were talking about sex. It was more like the language, custom, food, protocol, culture and many delicate things.

 

I have always been interested in human behaviour and have asked many questions. Ones can be shocked to hear some of the strange behaviour from Thai women.

 

Cheers! ::

 

[BillyJ]

Hi,

I've been married to a Thai woman for 21 years now. Our marriage has been very good and relations with her family have been great, no problems at all. In this time we have lived in America, Asia and Europe and I've been around many Thai people. I can tell you first hand the story in this thread is not that uncommon. I would say gambling is the #1 culprit in destroying relationships followed closely by alcohol. I would advise anyone who is thinking of getting married, if she gambles let here go. I starts out as a good time, people drinking, eating Thai food and playing cards. The next thing you know the wife is playing cards every weekend, then not coming home for 2 or 3 days at a time. She is also losing money and getting into debt with her gambling buddies. Of course the whole time she is getting free marital advice from some of the most ignorant bitches in the world. When the husband gets tired of this the home life goes to hell. And when he quits giving her money to gamble all her friends want to know what kind of husband she has who won't take care of her. From this point there is a 50/50 chance she is going to look for some one who will take care of here and pay her debts. Seen it happen a hundred times.

 

Billy

[jasmine]

Hi,

 

I am so glad to see your post. I know that there are many good long marriages out there, thanks again.

 

I agree, if a spouse gambles, I don't think that I can take it. I had loved my father dearly but I told my mother once that I couldn't have made it if I were his wife.

 

Cheers! :)

[Guest]

Exactly,

I have been a Las Vegas casino dealer for about six years. I have seen grown men cry on games, I have people go to the bathroom on themselves. I have seen a mans wife have a heartattack only to say to the paramedic "where are you taking her, I will be there after this hand is over" I tell my players, especially the younger ones "the worst thing that can happen to you is win for the first time, now you hooked fo life". I have seen a man lose $50,000 chasing $25. Gambling is something people can never quit. Once it is someones blood they get hooked.

kjvegas

[Guest]

Wait,

I meant to say I have seen people go to the bathroom on themselves.

[jasmine]

Hi,

 

[color:"red"] Of course the whole time she is getting free marital advice from some of the most ignorant bitches in the world. [/color]

 

It is really disgusting about some of these women who seem to specialize on how to take the husbands to the cleaners. Mind you, some women really take the advice and marriages can be ruined this way.

 

IMO, many Thai women do NOT want others to be happy. Somehow, most of these people stay away from me.

 

Cheers!

[Central Scrutinizer]

Jasmine,

 

"IMO, many Thai women do NOT want others to be happy."

Yes. I have seen this quite a bit. Jealousy is an ugly thing. These miserable women/people will even tell lies and do all sorts of horrible things to break up a happy relationship. If they aren't hurting someone they aren't happy. These women are truly evil, and sad to say, I've seen a few of them at work trying to hurt people. They are sick. It is best to avoid them at all costs. They seem to thrive on causing pain and discord.

 

"Somehow, most of these people stay away from me."

 

That's because they know you are too smart to believe their lies, or let them do you damage. You sound like a strong intelligent lady. I've been very happy to be able to read your wonderful posts here. You are an asset to this board, and to those of us who appreciate having your wisdom and unwavering truthful intelligence and humor here. Thanks for all your great posts and discussions.

 

 

Cent