Upper hand in relationships with ex-BGs

[thalenoi]

Sorry to contradict you, but none of the mixed couples, and I know and see a few here, have gf's or wives that behave like that.

 

I do now a few who drink and/or gamble though...

 

Any lady that would check my phone register or wallet would not stay a second longer in my place.

[Guest lazyphil]

When my mobile has run out of credit I've borrowed my mrs phone and vice versa ::....my mrs can go in my wallet, shes a keen moth collecter, now and then we need a bottle of oz red, she'll ask me to go in her handbag for the money to go to the spar shop to buy or look for the lotto ticket that lies deep in the abyss to get checked....if it becomes a war to get the upperhand its bound to be difficult, jmo

[Chlp]

Thanks for all of the replies, it's good to know that this is not the norm. Like a few posters said, any one of these things would be the instant end of the relationship for me.

[AF16]

lazyphil said:

When my mobile has run out of credit I've borrowed my mrs phone and vice versa ::....my mrs can go in my wallet, shes a keen moth collecter, now and then we need a bottle of oz red, she'll ask me to go in her handbag for the money to go to the spar shop to buy or look for the lotto ticket that lies deep in the abyss to get checked...

 

Excactly, what is the big deal?

 

 

.if it becomes a war to get the upperhand its bound to be difficult, jmo

 

I know if I went into the relationship on these terms it would be over rather quick.

[Old Hippie]

OK I'm no expert here, but I would think the "upperhand" should either not exist or go back and forth in a healthy relationship...

[AF16]

In my view the ideal is for either side to not use the upper hand when they got it. Might comes with responsiblity.

[Old Hippie]

Exactly, no one likes being strong armed.

[shygye]

Old Hippie said:

OK I'm no expert here, but I would think the "upperhand" should either not exist or go back and forth in a healthy relationship...

 

Like this,

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In my experience the guys that have married bar girls have to deal with the lack of trust the most.

 

Checking the cell phone record, pockets, looking for "evidence" of infedility.

 

I have seen a few times, and have a few freinds who have been lucky enough as well, to have the pregnant former bargirl GF take them to a massage place when she was personally unable to perform her marital duties.

 

So the invasion of privacy with former bar girls might just balance out.

[itsmedave]

I agree with the infidelity issue.

 

I think most ladies here, whether they be ex BG's, GTG's, or Farang ladies have serious concerns over their men cheating because it is so easy to do so here, and the selection is so great (as was mentioned). So it is a matter of trust.

 

Early in the releationship my wife tried this a few times, but I quickly let her know that it was unacceptable until such time as I gave her good reason to suspect that I was straying. No problems after that.