Living with a Thai Girl - Death

[Nervous God]

Living with a Thai Girl – Death 100406

 

I used to think people where dying daily in the village. It seems every week there was another wake. What really was happening was people celebrating the death of someone who died either that week (not so often) or a while ago – which was quite common. Great thing is you can end up having more than one wake for the same person.

 

Wakes are great here, make a Irish wake seem tame. Dancing girls, Music, Movies, Gambling, Drinking, all the excesses that make life interesting. I have left instructions with the DarLek that when I die, I want a range of interesting movies I loved, starting with Rocky Horror Picture Show, and ending up after midnight with a range of good soft porn. Bribe who she must, it must be done .Meanwhile at 5 am three days in a row I want 6 hours of a medley of AC/DC, Punk, New Romantic, Hip Hop and House trance to be played. Start with Punk and AC/DC, end up with some lounge music, order is important I told her.

 

In Ghana recently I saw a number of funerals. They have a custom my mate and I think was very good. If someone was older than about 70, then the mourners wear white with back trims, indicating the person lived a full life, had a good fun, and should not be too sad they are gone. For people younger, black was the norm, and for very young people, under 20, red and black.

 

I was at a morlam just the other night, had a great time, and this beautiful young lady was celebrating her father's death, and it was a pretty happy occasion, in particular I liked the morlam girls uniforms, but I don't want those katoeys at my funeral dancing on stage! Old Hippie looks better in drag than those guys!

 

Death is always nearby it seems, I think because living in a small community you know more people, and see it more often. Also because many times it's something that shouldn't happen, like the stoic but silly lady with breast cancer who refused surgery, illnesses that are identified too late, who happen because of poor knowledge.

 

Sadly last night brings me this morning a red and back day for the village. Young Bee, a very nice boy was hit by a large truck while riding his bike two nights ago.

 

Bee was a real nice kid, tall geeky with bucked teeth but a ready grin. He played at the internet more than a few times a week, but unlike most of the boys there, I never had to tell him to stop trying to fight someone. He was quiet, road his own motorbike sensibly, and again, unlike most of the boys, he didn't drink.

 

Accidents happen, and the truck driver was really not at fault. The village is about 1 km long, but only 2 rows wide, long and narrow. The last 100 meters runs over a small main road, which has been the scene of Tee's near death last year.

 

The kids seem to forget the road is there and fly over it, forgetting people using the main road have zero chance to stop.

 

It's easy to do, and I admit here to doing it once my self while distracted.

 

I have no photo's of Bee, just the long slide mark of him and his bike stuck under the front of the truck and finally where it ends with the oil and fuel stain on the ground.

 

He was unconscious I am grateful to hear, but was technically dead. He was on life support for one day, and last night he went.

 

The funeral is this week, and I hope it's a blast, not sure what the DarLek will suggest, but I hope it's something appropriate for a boy gone to soon, who was one who should have stayed a long time.

 

[doxx]

I read your entire post, but I'm not sure what you are trying to say here.

[shygye]

Are there stop signs at the intersection?

[Nervous God]

Doxx just talking about living in a village, nothing deeper, people die,

 

Shyguy - No - Really needs some flashing lights in both directions to wake people up, I've been guilty myself of going over the intersection without thinking.

 

At the moment a police road block is there now, I guess will be there for a week, but it's the second serious accident in 2 years, so it is a problem.

[soongmak]

NG,

 

Sad to hear the kid's gone. Also an interesting read about wake's in the mooban . I never had one when I stayed at my now ex-wife's place. The kids in that mooban could face a similar sad fate though, given the fact that it's just a small stretch of road with houses on both sides that attracts a lot trucks these days. I just hope one of them don't get run over.

 

 

[Old Hippie]

"...Old Hippie looks better in drag than those guys!..."

 

 

Thank you.

 

 

[pasathai1]

try going to a wake with the guest of honor ( long dead) dug up and at the party

[dave32]

Hey NG, thanks for sharing this stuff.

 

Everybody's different, but this kinda posting is my favorite on the forum. You won't find it in a lonely planet travel guide or the big blogs. It's a brief frozen window into a world I rarely see.

 

Anyway, to reiterate, thanks.

[Pescator]

try going to a wake with the guest of honor ( long dead) dug up and at the party

 

That would be kinda hard.

Deceased people are burnt in Thailand, not buried.

 

[BelgianBoy]

only the budhist ones....not all Thai are budhist.