Torneyboy Posted March 12, 2006 Report Share Posted March 12, 2006 I am getting this book sent to me...any of you guys know this one ? Thailand Fever Looks like it may be worth a look Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
preahko Posted March 12, 2006 Report Share Posted March 12, 2006 yeah, it looks pretty interesting. I've been seeing a ton of people in bangkok reading it since it came out. it's written in both thai and english, side by side. a friend of mine wrote the thai part. interestingly, she's lived in the US for about 20 years! but I think most of the cultural observations are pretty valid (she still comes back here and visits). one thing someone told me about the book, though--I haven't read it, just skimmed it--is the rather questionable advice she (and her farang male co-author) makes on what to do if you're a former bargirl and you meet your farang hubby's family: "tell them straight off you were a hooker, because they're going to suspect it anyway, and they'll appreciate your honesty"...bullshit!! prositution is waaaay more stigmatized in the West (well, in the US anyway) than here in Thailand, that's bound to be a disastrous bit of "honesty"! my friend's naivete in that respect betrays the fact that she absolutely no experience with or knowledge of the farang-oriented sex industry here; she's upper class and a language teacher (of Thai to farangs). she wrote the book under a pseudonym too, by the way. other than that, I think the book could be quite useful to those folks brave (nutty?) enough to attempt to get the cross-cultural relationship thing to work... preahko Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Torneyboy Posted March 12, 2006 Author Report Share Posted March 12, 2006 Yes it covers a lot of ground ....would they suspect the sex industry if *they* had no idea about the p4p scene of Thailand? Still i would not suggest a girl confesses on the first meeting with the parents... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stickman Posted March 12, 2006 Report Share Posted March 12, 2006 It is an excellent book and highly recommended for any Western guy entering into a serious relationship with a Thai woman. Stick Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest lazyphil Posted March 13, 2006 Report Share Posted March 13, 2006 when it comes to reading books i have the attention span of a goldfish, so no good for me :: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Old Hippie Posted March 13, 2006 Report Share Posted March 13, 2006 preahko said:yeah, it looks pretty interesting. I've been seeing a ton of people in bangkok reading it since it came out. it's written in both thai and english, side by side. a friend of mine wrote the thai part. interestingly, she's lived in the US for about 20 years! but I think most of the cultural observations are pretty valid (she still comes back here and visits). one thing someone told me about the book, though--I haven't read it, just skimmed it--is the rather questionable advice she (and her farang male co-author) makes on what to do if you're a former bargirl and you meet your farang hubby's family: "tell them straight off you were a hooker, because they're going to suspect it anyway, and they'll appreciate your honesty"...bullshit!! prositution is waaaay more stigmatized in the West (well, in the US anyway) than here in Thailand, that's bound to be a disastrous bit of "honesty"! my friend's naivete in that respect betrays the fact that she absolutely no experience with or knowledge of the farang-oriented sex industry here; she's upper class and a language teacher (of Thai to farangs). she wrote the book under a pseudonym too, by the way. other than that, I think the book could be quite useful to those folks brave (nutty?) enough to attempt to get the cross-cultural relationship thing to work... preahko Preahko, In speaking with this woman, she said the decision to include the truth about a BGs past to the guys parents, was the idea/advice of her co author, a farang. I and almost all people who discussed the book with them, told them we disagreed. A great book non the less. I understand a follow up book out lining problems that come after the wedding may be in the works. In any event, worth reading. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shygye Posted March 13, 2006 Report Share Posted March 13, 2006 lazyphil said:when it comes to reading books i have the attention span of a goldfish, so no good for me :: A goldfish has a superb attention span. It can stare at you for hours on end. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted March 13, 2006 Report Share Posted March 13, 2006 This book is great and it really helped me and my wife. In my opinion, the most useful aspect of it is that it explains how farangs think and how our culture works -- in Thai. Even if this sort of credible, lucid writing on that particular topic weren't rare, it's unlikely your TG has encountered it in such a concise easy to digest form. I agree with the other posts regarding BGs being advised to come clean immediately about their past. That is terrible advice and is oddly out of place in an otherwise spot-on treatment of the subject matter. (I disagree with the poster who said that prostitution is more stigmatized in the west than in Thailand. IMO, no way is that true -- don't confuse bar girl culture with mainstream Thai culture.) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
longwoodguy74 Posted March 13, 2006 Report Share Posted March 13, 2006 The problem with this book is that it takes for granted that most punters' isaarn darlings can actually read - or want to. :: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Old Hippie Posted March 13, 2006 Report Share Posted March 13, 2006 "...(I disagree with the poster who said that prostitution is more stigmatized in the west than in Thailand. IMO, no way is that true -- don't confuse bar girl culture with mainstream Thai culture.) ..." TA, I think it might actually be true in certain parts of Thailand, where familes seem to have no shame about where and how their daughters earn the money that supports them. Hell, I think it is fair to think/say that many of these girls have mothers who worked in the trade before, or maybe still do... Assuming the girl is from that area, or from that type of family, she might think it o.k. to come clean, and tell all about her past, after all, her parents know...or so it might seem in SOME cases anyway. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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