pattaya127 Posted August 24, 2002 Report Share Posted August 24, 2002 we all see different things, on different days i guess. I was there last winter, and mostly did not see many farangs, but a lot of thais, boys and girls, who were not striking me as Bg types, rather the tall lanky fair skin student type. As I came out, 3 of them were in front of me, delighted at the 10 year stamp on their passport. I believe a lot have family in US already or are going to study in the States. So, no BGs, middle-class kids and a strikingly handsome farang (moi!) who, upon seeing the dozens of forms to fill for a missus visa just let out: "no way i am going thru all this crap!".... PS: guess i am not the horny type Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
spirit_of_town_hall Posted August 25, 2002 Report Share Posted August 25, 2002 Hi interesting post, the other night here in England I was in a pub, saw a guy in in his late twenties with a Thai girl. Dont know if she was ex bar girl, if she was she would have been one of the better ones. There was her boy friend and 3 other farang couples, the Thai girl looked pretty excluded and bored, I felt quite sorry for her. Given the noise of the pub and the fact that the other people were talking fast she didnt stand a chance. Thai girls seem so parochial and uninformed, bar the odd Thai lady who is a diplomat or something I dont think they stand a chance interacting with lots of farangs at say a function; without embarrassing everybody from themselves, their boyfriend and the other guests. Chinese girls, Japs and Malaysians seem to be able to hold there own, sadly thats not the case for Thai ladies and in my life time it never will be. If I had a Thai girl friend I definitely ouldnt bring her to the west, sorry it would just be too embarrassing (especially at work functions) if I lived in Thailand I would live a double life and socialise with farangs and Thai girlfriends on different days. STH Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JJsushi Posted August 25, 2002 Report Share Posted August 25, 2002 Thai girls seem so parochial and uninformed, bar the odd Thai lady who is a diplomat or something I dont think they stand a chance interacting with lots of farangs at say a function; without embarrassing everybody from themselves, their boyfriend and the other guests. . . . If I had a Thai girl friend I definitely ouldnt bring her to the west, sorry it would just be too embarrassing (especially at work functions) [color:purple] Would you care to tell us what would be embarrasing about having a Thai girlfriend or wife in the west? From your post you are not referring specifically to an ex-BG but you are speaking of Thai women in general barring the diplomat or equivalent. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pattaya127 Posted August 25, 2002 Report Share Posted August 25, 2002 sadly thats not the case for Thai ladies --------------------- how many do you know, out of a few 10 000s susceptible to be following a farang back home? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cardinalblue Posted August 25, 2002 Report Share Posted August 25, 2002 Orand, Another great topic you have raised here. Let me give it a shot. I think guys who decide to marry BGs are guys who have not had stellar intimate social relationships in the past. They could be failed marriages/relationships, not finding a women they deem pretty enough or worthwhile within their own lifestyle constraints or just plain social misfits within their own culture. Here we have a situation where young, attractive opposite sex members pay immediate attention and even affection (some pretending) to guys who have never had or fed up with the frustrations their own homeland dating offers them. At least in most western countries that i am aware of, no 20 to 30 year olds physically attracitve female is going to pay attention to 40 year old plus guys who are just the average joes, run of the mills or worst. I am talking more about looks and financial success rather than character. I think there are many guys here who have decent character and some actually hearts of gold. But as we know, nice guys usually end up in last place. So much presure and emphasis in the West is put on physical looks and/or financial success for men to obtain. This IS the criteria if one is going to land an young attractive western women. Because wesern women have money, power and thus choices, it is the survival of the fittest mentality. Many guys are left out in the cold. It is strictly economies of scale. Come to Thailand where it is just the opposite at least within the bar scene. Poor girls who have been blessed with looks and charm pay attention to guys who have received little love and affection at least from girls who they deem as desirable back home. Of course you will have a situation where logic, common sense and rationale go out the window. While i would not personally choose to marry a girl with a prositution backgound, I can't blame them. What are their other viable options? There is a lot of BS in the dating/relationship scene back home. Now I will duck ............... Cardinalblue Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted August 25, 2002 Report Share Posted August 25, 2002 Very tactfully said and you crystallized my thoughts exactly. I had been trying to find similar words, but would have failed miserably and been flamed mercilessly. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted August 25, 2002 Report Share Posted August 25, 2002 Would you care to tell us what would be embarrasing about having a Thai girlfriend or wife in the west? Well, if you were to socialize with your peers and their whale wifes, to them it might be embarassing that your wife 1 Is beautiful wife and half your age 2 Considers it perfectly alright for a woman to cook AND to wash the dishes 3 Doesn't have an opinion about Rush Limbaugh Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ThaiGirlLover Posted August 25, 2002 Report Share Posted August 25, 2002 Ok I?ll flame away. I think your post is crap and based on rather broad generalizations that you haven?t really thought about. I was married to very beautiful and intellectual women. She was the type the walked down the street and people turned to stare. In addition she was a heck of a lot smarter than me as well (PHD). I would consider my marriage a great success except that my wife got cancer and died very early in her life. End of sob story. So if a BG from Thailand now entertains me, it doesn?t mean that I have never had a successful relationship. I enjoy their company, have found several who are very intelligent (street smarts) and quite honestly would consider them more intellectual that a book smart girl from college. If the fact that you are with a ?GTG? (whatever the f**k that means) and are trying to look down on BGs, then piss off. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted August 25, 2002 Report Share Posted August 25, 2002 Would your response to his post have differed if he had written: I think most guys who decide to marry BGs are guys... Or how about many, many? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ThaiGirlLover Posted August 25, 2002 Report Share Posted August 25, 2002 [color:blue]Would your response to his post have differed ...color=blue> Probably not. I still think it is a broad generalization somewhere along the lines of: "All farangs are dirty and don't shower ..." "All bargirls are thieves ..." "All Thais are out to cheat you ..." Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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