jasmine Posted November 8, 2002 Report Share Posted November 8, 2002 Hello, Just read an article about a Thai lady. She is a writer and a successful career woman (fluent in French and English), a graduate from Chula Univ. over 30 years ago (so you can estimate her age), has an advanced degree from France, just married a French man after seeing each other on and off for 24 years. It is her first marriage. I think it is wonderful. What I feel is so nice is a female who has been conducting her life well, has good career, had a long distance relationship which started as a good friendship could develop it into a wonderful partnership. I do believe in fate, hopefully good things can happen to all of us. And long-distance love can work. Reading many posts who claimed that Thai women need the men to be there all the time to make a relationship work contradicts what I believe. It has got to do with individuals and the caliber of both parties. Any discussion is welcome. Cheers! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
check_bin_krap Posted November 8, 2002 Report Share Posted November 8, 2002 "Reading many posts who claimed that Thai women need the men to be there all the time to make a relationship work contradicts what I believe. It has got to do with individuals and the caliber of both parties." Obviously, this lady has a life of her own. She is not too dependent of her partner. And I reckon there is no children involved, which would have made it difficult to be apart. For those girls who stays at home, caring and centering their life around the man its tough to be apart. Its 2 different worlds - modern, career orientated Thai girls and oldfashioned "husband is life" type. Its interesting to see that the career orientated Thai girls are turning to foreigners also. It is very in among university girls to go for foreigners.. Cheers! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pattaya127 Posted November 8, 2002 Report Share Posted November 8, 2002 Reading many posts who claimed that Thai women need the men to be there all the time to make a relationship work ------------------------------- that's 98% of them. Your acquaintance is in the other 2%. You may change the ratio, but no double-digit, please :: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted November 8, 2002 Report Share Posted November 8, 2002 >>>It has got to do with individuals and the caliber of both parties.<<< ...and economical background, social background. don't forget, the woman you desribed is a successful career woman, the vast majority of thai women aren't. you cannot compare the life the rural poor with the life this woman leads. two utterly different worlds. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
check_bin_krap Posted November 8, 2002 Report Share Posted November 8, 2002 This thread reminds me of a friend of mine, a Thai uni student. She told me that a foreigner had proposed to her, wanting her to quit uni and move to his country. My reaction was that he could not know her well. She laughed of the whole proposal and thought the idea of her quitting uni was ridiculous. For these girls a man is just one part of their life, its probably behind getting a career and being independent. Cheers! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jasmine Posted November 8, 2002 Author Report Share Posted November 8, 2002 Dear P127, I admit that long distance relationship is very difficult, however, there are many mature women who can take it and survive. Many factors are involved and many Thai women are not use to being alone, especially the up-country folk. Cheers! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jasmine Posted November 8, 2002 Author Report Share Posted November 8, 2002 [color:"red"] For these girls a man is just one part of their life, its probably behind getting a career and being independent. [/color] Dear Check_bin_krap, I am a woman with a good career and there were times that I did sacrifice for my child and husband. I have done my best and life has been kind. Believe me, my husband is not less important than my career. A woman/man needs to do what is best at the time, but family is most important to me. Cheers! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
check_bin_krap Posted November 8, 2002 Report Share Posted November 8, 2002 "I am a woman with a good career and there were times that I did sacrifice for my child and husband. I have done my best and life has been kind. Believe me, my husband is not less important than my career. A woman/man needs to do what is best at the time, but family is most important to me." Hi Jasmine, I didn't mean that statement in any negative way. But lets put it this way: In an early stage of a relationship, when you had a choice. Before children/family were involved at all. Would you have sacraficed education, a career if your potential husband demanded it? These girls want it all. Career, education and a family. Nothing wrong in that! I admire it. Actually my fiance is the same way. Cheers! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bhat_Man Posted November 8, 2002 Report Share Posted November 8, 2002 flyonzewall I agree totally with your comment. A succesfull career woman can stand on her own two feet and is not financially dependant. This applies whether she is Thai, Chinese or whatever. A rural Thai lady and a Thai career woman are at two totally diferent ends of the spectrum. They are, as you say, "two utterly different worlds." with different morals, different values and certainly a different outlook on life. Just my two peneth Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BkkShaggy Posted November 9, 2002 Report Share Posted November 9, 2002 Says Bhat_Man: flyonzewall I agree totally with your comment. A succesfull career woman can stand on her own two feet and is not financially dependant. This applies whether she is Thai, Chinese or whatever. A rural Thai lady and a Thai career woman are at two totally diferent ends of the spectrum. They are, as you say, "two utterly different worlds." with different morals, different values and certainly a different outlook on life. Just my two peneth I think you mixed up between two issues that is being rural Thai women and being a career women. Rural Thai women can be career women as well. Have you seen rural business women running her little store in a village singlehandedly? Being rural Thai women doen't mean they are financially dependent to their husband. True that many of them are poor and want someone to support them and their family. But that includes urban poor Thai women as well. So we'd better talk about women who prefer being 'financially dependent' or 'financially independent'. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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