Marriage of Educated,Career Oriented Thai Female

[whosyourdaddy]

"woman you desribed is a successful career woman, the vast majority of thai women aren't."

 

 

I disagree, I would say most of the women where we live in bkk are successful career women.. Many women that we have access to on the internet, in clubs, in gyms, parties are going to be successful women.. If you spend your entire life in the bar and dont get out of the sex scene then yes you would come to that conclusion.

 

Yes I would agree that maybe the majority of the 30 million women in thailadn are less educated but I have no access to them since I dont live in the middle or roi-et province and would never have a chance to meet these women.

 

 

[Guest]

you may meet more educated women where you live, but that has nothing to do with the fact that the vast majority of thai people including women belong to the rural poor casses, are landless farmhands and smallscale farmers. women from these classes will have very little chance ever to have access to education, clubs, gyms and parties.

maybe you should live some time in the middle of roi et province, that could expand your horizon tremendously.

[Guest]

>>>Rural Thai women can be career women as well. Have you seen rural business women running her little store in a village singlehandedly?<<<

 

i see a lot more women upcountry who do backbreaking work for a pittance than running a shop "singlehandely". it takes investment to open such a shop, and most of the women (and men) in my wifes family for example will never be able to get enough money together to start a business like that.

 

>>>So we'd better talk about women who prefer being 'financially dependent' or 'financially independent'.<<<

 

that somehow cloudes the issues here as this problem in thailand here is very much class related.

 

 

[BkkShaggy]

I said rural not poor. Being in rural area doesn't always mean they are poor. I just would like to point that out. Two different issues again.

 

It's also not about class. Take Pui Porntip, the ex-Miss Universe who just got married to an American millionairre, for instance. She prefers to be financially dependent on the guy. She talked all the time that she worked while she lived in the US but we have no concrete proof so far. She's educated and midle classed. It happens in all classes.

 

 

[BkkShaggy]

I know a Thai lady who is married to an African american for nearly 20 years. They met in the US while they both studying for a graduate degree. She came back and worked here, still advancing in her career ladder. He works in an international agency in India. Their son lives with his mom in Bangkok.

 

Yes, long distance relationship is possible.

 

 

[Guest]

>>I said rural not poor. Being in rural area doesn't always mean they are poor. I just would like to point that out. Two different issues again. <<<

 

the post you quoted from was a post by another member who answered a post by me, where i was talking about THE RURAL POOR.

 

 

>>>It's also not about class.<<<

 

it is very much so. a middle cass women's options are uncomparably higher than the options of the RURAL POOR (not the rural well off!)

 

[pattaya127]

it is very much so. a middle cass women's options are uncomparably higher than the options of the RURAL POOR

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which makes a sweet revenge over fate when i see my Issan friends married and happy with foreigners/friends in farangland, having discovered there's more to life than being the ever-giving daughter or the left out pregnant 18 YO, possibly having moved up a lot higher than your typical middle-class thai women still dealing with mia nois and stupid bosses back in the asphalt jungle of BKK.

 

[jasmine]

Dear Check_bin_krap,

 

[color:"red"] Before children/family were involved at all. Would you have sacraficed education, a career if your potential husband demanded it? [/color]

 

My first love (an American B52 navigotor) whom I met when I was in Thammasart wanted me to delay my career for the possible children and I would have done it, but we never married. I put my career on hold for a couple of times when my daughter was little, however it was completely my choice (I am lucky with my partner). I might have had a hard time if the partner "demanded' it. I think a relationship can be worked out trying to balance things and priorities of things change because of the lif stages and requirements change.

 

My friend, things have not been easy being married to a military man who had no option where/when to move, the spouse's career always is put on hold.

 

It is not that we women think we want it all as much as we are partners to our spouses and want to contribute as well as we can.

 

Cheers!

 

[jasmine]

Dear Pattay127,

 

[color:"red"]which makes a sweet revenge over fate [/color]

 

Why using "revenge"? Life has its own way to give and take. When I see the people like you describe, I feel great and greatfful that some of us get some fairness. Not all, and over 90% of my friends had no problem on "mia noi". The poorer people have the problem of "mia noi" also, when a man wants one and finds a woman who is willing, it does not matter what class the man is or how much he makes.

 

Cheers!

[jasmine]

Thank you, it can work and it takes love and trust and the commitment.

 

Cheers! :D