JJsushi Posted September 22, 2003 Report Share Posted September 22, 2003 Personally I don't see the point in telling them that the girl is a prostitute or was a prostitute. Now if your girlfriend is a prostittue what is the point in telling your parents? Now if you plan on marrying a former prostitute then you still don't need to tell your parents that info either. All they need to know is that you found someone that you want to marry. If they really need to know of her occupation then you tell them what your girlfriend did prior to being a prostitute. Do you really think that a woman who may be the mother of your children wants to be introduced to your family as the "prostitute"? Honesty is a great policy but sometimes it can get silly. BTW- if I ever decide to marry a former prostitute and bring her to America you can be damn sure that there will be no mention of her past to my friends and family. Now if I have friends that knew about her past before they had better keep their trap shut for the sake of the friendship. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
robaus Posted September 22, 2003 Report Share Posted September 22, 2003 Hear, hear, jjsushi, Your mutual happiness is paramount. So long as you go into the relationship eyes wide open. You truly love being with her and she takes care of you, and vice versa. Then don't allow anything to stuff it up. It is different in LOS. A farang is not likely to stroll into one's GF's village in Nakhon Nowhere to invite her to the village dance. She has to come to BKK or Pattaya if she simply wants to meet a farang. GTGs (although 100% loyal forever so I've heard) are difficult to meet, take weeks of chaperoned meetings before you even kiss them good night, and you haven't a clue what they're like in bed till your wedding night. On a farang's brief visit to LOS it's pretty obvious how BGs win hands down in the getting-to-know-you stakes. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rovineye Posted September 23, 2003 Report Share Posted September 23, 2003 Says robaus: It is different in LOS. A farang is not likely to stroll into one's GF's village in Nakhon Nowhere to invite her to the village dance. She has to come to BKK or Pattaya if she simply wants to meet a farang. Not entirely true. I did meet my GF in the big city, but many farangs and Japanese vist the villages in her area looking for a wife. Her sister married a guy from Belgum that way and her cousin a Japanese guy. My GF has escorted several farangs to Lisu villages in search of a wife. I know of one that married that way. It didn't work out tho, as she would not sleep with him. Too shy. But that is another story in and of its self. Before I met her I stayed a week in a Karen village up north. Not on a trekking route. In the evening the unmarried girls would kind of parade past my shack being coy. A man in the village made sure I knew that the girls wearing white were looking for a boyfriend or husband. Not the ones in red, that already had one.I was just so out my element I never went beyond the juming around the bamboo poles clacking together with them. I may be bolder now, but not too much. But if so inclined, there are opportunities this way. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
torrenova Posted September 23, 2003 Report Share Posted September 23, 2003 Says BelgianBoy: Just today on the news........ 15000 new HIV infected people each and every day worldwide...... each day !!!!! But there are 6.3bn people in the world, increasing at the rate of approximately 200,000 per day! Where do these 15,000 people live ? Will they transmit the disease ? etc. etc. It is truly a large number but put in perspective, it is small, but nevertheless worrying. In isolation, numbers serve only to prove Disraeli's famous quote "There are three kinds of lies; lies, damned lies and statistics". Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
torrenova Posted September 23, 2003 Report Share Posted September 23, 2003 You just wouldn't tell you parents, just the same as you didn't tell your parents about every regular girl you shagged or who they shagged etc. Parents are best left out of it, whatever their / your age. If you go for a BG then fine. You know what you are doing (or should) and will (should have) thought about the consequences for both of you. One question I don't have an answer for is this. You deal with her past OK, you maybe don't mention it OK, whatever, you are both OK. Then when you have a fight or argument, perhaps when pissed, and when you are trading insults, how long before the guy wades in with the "well you were a prostitute when I met you" or " I dragged you up from the gutter" or other hard hitting, cruel, but perhaps truthful remark. Where do you go from there ? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thalenoi Posted September 23, 2003 Report Share Posted September 23, 2003 My son comes over here two times a year, each visit with an other Bangkok girl, a GTG??? are you joking :: Now, if he would choose them less stupid... Is he on this board reading this ? Advice: just don't tell the parents... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pattaya127 Posted September 23, 2003 Report Share Posted September 23, 2003 Where do you go from there ? ------------------------------------- The answer is: do you marry a prostitute or do you marry someone to be your wife. If you do your homework about this decision and go ahead, you have to be the fool to pop a remark like this to her after. To me, it means the guy was never really accepting her as his true other half to begin with. And of course, what she will answer will have him look inside himself, not her do that to herself: "yeah, i am prostitute/bad girl, you know before, so why you marry me?". Back to square one..... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
think_too_mut Posted September 23, 2003 Report Share Posted September 23, 2003 >Now if you plan on marrying a former prostitute then you still don't need to tell your parents that info either. All they need to know is that you found someone that you want to marry. If they really need to know of her occupation then you tell them what your girlfriend did prior to being a prostitute. That's what I would do. Living far away from my family (what's left of it), all they have to know is that I am married and see a pic or two. I left my country long ago, married someone who will be leaving her country...big deal. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Torneyboy Posted September 23, 2003 Report Share Posted September 23, 2003 Hi I wouldn't tell them. as long you are both happy and in love...enjoy your life together. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted September 23, 2003 Report Share Posted September 23, 2003 Says pattaya127: Where do you go from there ? ------------------------------------- The answer is: do you marry a prostitute or do you marry someone to be your wife. If you do your homework about this decision and go ahead, you have to be the fool to pop a remark like this to her after. To me, it means the guy was never really accepting her as his true other half to begin with. And of course, what she will answer will have him look inside himself, not her do that to herself: "yeah, i am prostitute/bad girl, you know before, so why you marry me?". Back to square one..... This is exactly how it would go too.. BG's are smart creatures... I'm amazed at how truly gifted they are! SB Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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