Why can't i come???

[MaiLuk]

When a young man I came far too soon. At thirty, with concentration and discipline I could hold back and wait until she orgasm'd before letting loose my load.

 

Now I'm forty and have a minor (major?) problem. It takes too long for me to come. My recent trip to LOS had several of the ladies complaining. Not really complaining but saying things like "You can finish now?"

 

Yes i drink alot, but sometimes even when a daytime coupling was the order of the day, I took way too long despite my sobriety. Sometimes I simply could not finish and sent the girl on her way. More than one girl made a herculean effort to finish me by hand and oral, no luck as my dick wasn't gonna cooperate.

 

Any thoughts on this? Do i have a physical problem? Mental illness? Have I been cursed by a vengeful girl from buriram?

[MrX]

Maybe you dont choose girls who really turn you on?...There are too many reasons why that might be true to go into on an open board though!

[short-time]

Get in line, you are not alone, and you didn?t mention if you need help getting it up yet. If you use V many guys say the stuff makes it more difficult to cum. Anyway, about the only way I can finish these days is with a good BBBJ. Can?t recall the last time I popped wearing a condom.

 

It only gets worse as you grow older.

 

ST

[MaiLuk]

No need for V, its finishing thats the problem. I hate condoms but use them religously. It only gets worse? Not good news!

 

R: I thought of that also. It may be that simply attractive ladies no longer get me there, something else is needed and i lack the self insight to figure it out.

[New Petchburi Pete]

No, it's not a mental illness.

However, if you're using Viagra (or a clone), try sex without it ... that may help.

Also, really concentrate on prolonged foreplay ... worth a shot, and might result in one!

If still no luck, I would recommend consulting with a urologist ... just avoid the dickhead at Bumrungrad!

He's all wet; and, it's not from sex!

Psychological? ... there's some cahnce ... but only consult with very attractive female psychs who ascribe to surrogate therapy.

[New Petchburi Pete]

Yes, I agree. Mentally prepare yourself, and pick a cutie Lolita's ... they'll suck until you are satisfied.

Ask for the doll that can suck a coconut through a garden hose.

 

If that doesn't work, there's always Yanhee ... perhaps it's time for a sex change ... that way you can fake an orgasm and actually get paid for it! :hubba:

[Old Hippie]

"My Friend" tells me that as he is now 42, he takes longer to finish. Yet, long time partners have said his performance is better than before. Maybe he finally learnwed how to "work it right?" My Friend I mean...

 

Seriously, I think Age has a lot to do with it, over all physical strength etc. What I have found since quitting booze and losing weight is...I can last longer, go more times, and enjoy it more with fewer problems...

 

Not to be to personnwl here, but how is your masterbation? Any problems ? If no problems, then could be 1) desensitization from to much wanking (seriously, so I have read) 2) as one guy said maybe the girl is a factor (loose equipment etc...) 3) maybe you are just trying to do to much. I have found myself in LOS saying hell, better get one more in while I can, and almost having to force myself to get it up and finish, or in some cases not...your situation sounds similar to that of many, wouldn't sweat it too much, relax and enjoy...

[gomez]

It's embarrassing, but go see a doctor... a specialist, not your GP. You might learn a lot about yourself, and it may not be as big a deal as it probably now seems. Then again, it might be a vengeful girl's curse.

[MrX]

ML wrote "R: I thought of that also. It may be that simply attractive ladies no longer get me there"

 

Ok I will venture a couple of reasons:

 

1) Really you want to give up casual sex but you havent realized yet

 

2) Really the women are too beautiful and dont satisfy your desire for a whore (ie you want to humiliate them or yourself)

 

3) Really you want a kid and your body refuses to waste the precious stuff

 

4) Really you want a more meaninful relation and your body says no come until you comply ( similar but not identical to 1 I guess)

 

5) Really you are angry with the women (or women in general) for some reason

 

6) Really you are too involved with someone else

 

7) Really you are gay or bisexual

 

8) Really you are heading for a period of (religious) celibacy

 

Seriously I suppose you could get to the botom of it in a couple sessions witha decent counsellor...

[short-time]

Yes, I agree. Mentally prepare yourself, and pick a cutie Lolita's ... they'll suck until you are satisfied. Ask for the doll that can suck a coconut through a garden hose.

 

Seriously, I also have a long-time favorite at Lolita?s (although not exactly a cutie) and had a number of sessions with her last month (this is MY idea of therapy). She somehow managed to accomplish her mission on each visit. Although in the past, there have been a couple of times when even she gave up. This last trip I also found a prize in one of the Pattaya BJ joints whom I visited religiously every afternoon I could during my limited stay there.

 

And as Old Hippie mentioned - it is possible to overdue it and at times you just have to give it a rest for a few days.

 

BTW, if you suffer from this affliction it?s hard to find go-go girls with the skills and willpower to get the job done, although I do know one at Tilac.

 

Oh, and what I said about it only gets worse with age is true enough for most, but if there?s a silver lining to this its the older you get the less important it becomes?

 

ST