Advice Needed: Friend Won't See Writing On The Wall and Come Home

[kamui]

Often you have to let people dig their own holes, if you try and dissuade them, they won't let you watch, and then you can't give them a hand up and out.

 

 

That's a great line. I haven't heard it before.

 

[MooNoi]

Wow - go away for 24 hours and then come back and the thread's over-flowing with advice.

 

Thanks guys.

 

Some useful opinions offered - that's for sure.

 

I was thinking of following Coss and Cent's advice (which I was heading down the path of anyway).

 

I spoke to him today and he's still hell-bent on staying no matter what. I just told him that if he wants to do it, then it's his life and it's not going to change our friendship. If he really thinks he can do it, then up to him and let him go.

 

I appreciate that some others here decided to "hang on" and find something else when things turned to shit, but the difference is, is that a lot of you guys are qualified in a specialist field where supply for people with those qualifications is thin-on-the-ground. My mate isn't in that boat and is pretty much replacable by a local person in his past job.

 

I'm glad when I lost my job in LOS that I came back. But that's just me. At the time I was devestated and found it quite hard to adjust back to life in Farang Land. However, now I'm really happy: I have a great job, get to travel to Asia about 4 times per year, have a great girl and lifestyle here and I'm feeling quite content. Sure, I would love to go back and live in LOS sometime, but at age 38 I'm already really lucky and thankful for having had 7 years living there - many don't get that long, even at an older age.

And who knows what may happen in the future?

 

Anyway, bottom line is, it's his life. I've offered my support and opinion, but he's old enough to make his own choices and if he fuck's up, then hopefully he'll learn from it.

 

Thanks again, lads.

Piggy Moo.

[The_Munchmaster]

Wow - go away for 24 hours and then come back and the thread's over-flowing with advice.

Indeed, quite the opposite from my thread where I asked for some advice on more upmarket places to drink!

[Flashermac]

What makes you think posters here know anything about more upmarket places to drink?

 

 

[kamui]

Wow - go away for 24 hours and then come back and the thread's over-flowing with advice.

Indeed' date=' quite the opposite from my thread where I asked for some advice on more upmarket places to drink! [/quote']

 

For this you must become a member of the Soi 33 forum. :content:

[TroyinEwa/Perv]

MN.......you have the right attitude. You've given your advice and that's all you can do. You can't handcuff your friend and deport him. He has to realize on his own when it's time to go home. If he hits a wall, he has to learn for himself how to pick himself up.

 

You sound like a good friend to this guy. Don't let his hard-head get in the way of that.

[waerth]

So money is everything? Sometimes people place their happiness first, send him home and saying this seriously, maybe he decides to top himself, how will you feel?

 

You've told him your thoughts, and they are good ones, you've pushed enough.

 

Thinking about someone similar, Blackie, I bet he was happy he stayed in Thailand far too long.

 

Amen to that NG!

 

[The_Munchmaster]

True, money isn't everything, but it is very important, especially as you get older and start realising that your earning years are running out and you haven't made enough financial provision for your retirement.

 

[waerth]

I am realizing that myself Munchie. I have personally already reconciled me with the fact that I will probably have to work until the day of my last breathe. Unless I really have a major break.

 

I kinda took life the other way around I guess. Instead of not enjoying life until after retirement. I have decided to enjoy it while I am still young. With all the consequences it brings.

 

And you know what. In the unfortunate case that I might die early I can say I enjoyed my life. Every single second of it. Even the hard times as it builds me.

 

I have had the pleasure to meet with people from all corners of the world. I have visited quite a few places. I have done some things no-one else would do. I have helped people out that needed help. I have volunteered to help people in need.

 

And no matter how little it is. At least I will life on! Shows and movies I have been in are still being repeated on tv and are for sale. I have influenced kids whom came and watched me play comedy. I brought smiles and a few happy moments in many peoples life with my performances on stage. From orphans in an Aids orphanage, people living on garbage heaps, through normal people and even Thailands royalty.

 

All in all I may be a poor fucker. Might have to beg for money sometimes. Some days I do cannot even afford to eat more than one meal. But I feel that I really am getting the maximum out of life so far.

 

Would I like to have more money? Off course! Would I be willing to sacrifice my happiness for it. No way! Now let the flames come!

[Old Hippie]

Flames nothing, I like many others have spent years working and preparing for the future only to see pensions and investments vanish. This came at the price of sacrificing good times while young, and for what? Enjoy what you can while you can.