Lusty Posted March 2, 2003 Report Share Posted March 2, 2003 I have to agree with you Fripence that perhaps wallet has made a genuin mistake.One thing we need to know is this Walletss first time in Pattaya?If it is I remember some of the fuck ups I made on my first visit there ::! The way I think now is that there's no such thing as a GTG in Pattaya. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cardinalblue Posted March 3, 2003 Report Share Posted March 3, 2003 If she had a good job, she wouldn't be sleeping with you or anyone else on the first date. She viewed you as another way (job) to earn money. Maybe this is where the term freelancer comes in. Maybe she isn't a good thai girl after all. GTG don't compromise their values. Well, maybe once in alwhile but she surely wouldn't ask for money as she knows asking for money would be equating her to a hooker. Personally, i would have given her the taxi and food money. No big deal. I assume you did not because you all of a sudden went from a dating situation of getting the girl on the first night (a score) to the "fish in the barrel" PFP scene. Did you feel a letdown or disappointed that she asked you for money? A blow to one's ego? Cardinalblue Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MaiLuk Posted March 3, 2003 Report Share Posted March 3, 2003 so I just left her in the shopping centre to wait for her sister.So when I said bye to her she asked me if I could give her some money for her and her sister to for a taxi and food. I refused her request. If a thai lady in Pattaya that I slept with asks me for money, I assume its because she is FLer. I think you assumed the same and became angry. Until that moment you thought she was not a FLer. (at this point we still don't know, do we?) I am glad you posted because now I know from the responses that a non-freelancer might ask for a little money and now I will gladly pay. Of course the odds of a nice thai girl wanting to date me because I am a 'good' man are slim to none. So it is a bit of unusable info I will carry around. :: If she is a FLer you should pay her in full for services, she gave you a top shelf GFE. :: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted March 3, 2003 Report Share Posted March 3, 2003 W, Geez man it was only the price of a few beers she was asking for, not a house! If she was not a freeleancer and was waiting for her sister for you to meet and you blew her off. I am sorry to say but she has lost face big because of your "tight wallet!" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MaiLuk Posted March 3, 2003 Report Share Posted March 3, 2003 Did you feel a letdown or disappointed that she asked you for money? A blow to one's ego? If I thought the whole thing was based on mutual attraction/affection, then found out the babe I'm fuckin was in it for payment, i'd feel let down, etc.. Who wouldn't? Of course I would pay up, put it down to experience, assuming the charade had not gone on too long. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted March 3, 2003 Report Share Posted March 3, 2003 Says MaiLuk: If I thought the whole thing was based on mutual attraction/affection, then found out the babe I'm fuckin was in it for payment, i'd feel let down, etc.. Who wouldn't? Of course I would pay up, put it down to experience, assuming the charade had not gone on too long. I don't think she was asking for payment. Asking for a small amount of change for a taxi and some food isn't the same thing as asking him for payment. After asking for so little from him she must have felt like real dirt at his reaction. It sounds like she'll be suspect in his mind if he parts with any cash on her at all. I feel that to treat someone so poorly as to think they are a hooker because she asked for so little is really screwed up. Today when I came out of the grocery store I gave five dollars to a homeless woman in front of the store. It's called wanting to help someone who's less fortunate then you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JJsushi Posted March 3, 2003 Report Share Posted March 3, 2003 Says harlequinbkk: JJshshi, You are being too harsh. It is entirely possible that a less experienced and cynical man would have assumed the woman was not a prostitute. Wallet was unsure in this situation so he asked for advice on this board. No need to bust his chops over it. If anything, this story makes me feel a bit sad. This kind of thing happens often enough, and pretty soon a man can't enjoy physical intimacy with a lady without thinking how much it is going to cost him. Harlequin Okay, let's put perspective on this situation because you are clearly seeing this with some hellified super rose colored binoculars. Wallet meets a chick at a KFC and that same night he shags her thinking that she is a GTG. Let me ask you to place the scenario in your home country and short of being a celebrity or a pornstar what chick is going to screw you or any stranger the same night after meeting you in KFC? Would you honestly think that she fit the standard definition of a "good girl"? I have had some one night stands in college and other places picking chicks up in dance clubs or other entertainment venues but those events always had the element of alcohol and the intent to shag by both parties. I have never nor do I know of a guy who meets a chick in a grocery store, shopping mall or KFC and then a few hours later they are banging away. That only happens IMO in pornos and Penthouse letters. Back to reality for you and Wallet. His scenario takes place in a shopping mall in Pattaya Thailand. A mall that is FAMOUS for farangs meeting prostitutes. He shags her the first night and then fools himself into thinking she is the standard punter's definition of a "GTG". He then gets pissed because she asked for food and taxi money? Give me a break. HBB what in the world do you find so sad about this story? The fact that Wallet fooled himself into thinking he had free sex based on mutual attraction and got indignant because he felt like he was fooled by the young lady? Your killing me with that sappy rationale. The trully sad thing is that you have a situation with a guy that got his ego bruised. He decided he didn't want to wait for the girl's sister and he wanted to take off, when the realization struck him that the chick could be a freelancer he responded by denying her 300-600bt for food and taxi. I stand by my opinion of that being a cheap low class act on his part and I am "sugarcoating" my words. The fact that he is going to see her again tells me that he is not as pissed as he says he is. He should be more pissed at himself for fooling himself about the situation. Instead he blames the chick for "sugarcoating" the situation. Where is the personal accountability on his part? Instead of doing the right thing he reacts like a petulant child by punishing her. BTW- we still don't know if the chick is a legitimate frelancer or that Wallet simply assumed she was because she requested TAXI and FOOD money. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
btm1735 Posted March 3, 2003 Report Share Posted March 3, 2003 "If anything, this story makes me feel a bit sad. This kind of thing happens often enough, and pretty soon a man can't enjoy physical intimacy with a lady without thinking how much it is going to cost him. " I never think about how much it is going to cost me. I already know what I am going to pay and that is usually discreetly put in her purse when she is leaving in the morning and I never discuss it. I just pay. I did this with a soi 33 girl that I think really liked me and she asked me if I gave her the money. She did it in way that she seemed to be saying she didn't expect me to pay. When we went out later that night, she bought me several little presents and a game to take home to my son. I keep in contact with her and a go-go girl from Pattaya via email and I have never had either ask me to send money although I do send hunderd US or so for B-Days and such. I try to treat the girls well and don't break it down to a business transaction. It has worked well for me so far. Sometimes I wonder about all of the stories that all of the girls are after money. Sometimes the enjoy they Sanuk just as much as we do and if make sure they are having Sanuk then money is not at the forefront of there minds. Just my experience. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
walletss Posted March 3, 2003 Author Report Share Posted March 3, 2003 " You really can't be that pissed because you plan on seeing her again. Did you even bother to ask her if she was a freelancer before you walked away indignant? IMO your reaction and resulting action was just plain low class. " I made the arrangement to meet her again that night after work before she asked me for money. After reading the posts on the board I took the following action. I rang her. When she turned up I paid her off after trying to explain to her that I didn't take her as a freelancer. I wasn't trying to save money. I made an error in judgement about her motives. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
walletss Posted March 3, 2003 Author Report Share Posted March 3, 2003 "Yep, better stick to freelancers asking for THB 1000 st. " I think you are right. Beats me why they have to pretend they are shy and not given to spending time with Farangs. There is a possibility that because she was in her thirties she needed to use some tactical manouvering to compete with the younger girls. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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