Good Thai Girls asking for money?

[khunsanuk]

Hi,

 

"although I don't date BG's"

How about the one from Soi 33? Or was that different?

 

Sanuk!

 

[Guest]

Who said I've ever dated from Soi 33.

Going with a BG is IMO not a date but a commercial agreement.

Of course in LOS its possible to date a girl that turns out to be a BG afterwards.

Still at a date I always offer to pay some expenses, before they get a chance to ask for it. Its then up to them to accept or not.

If a date wants to go shopping and is looking for the most expensive item (with me footing the bill), it'll be the last date (GTG or not). I don't mind buying nice things for them, but such an attitude will clearly indicate the real dating intention from the girls side.

 

Bye the way, never dated a Soi 33 girl, but have frequented the area for a few drinks and chats with the girls there.

[Guest]

I should like to add that in fact its possible to go on a "normal" date with a soi 33 girl. Many of them don't go easily with customers (for sex anyway) but several of them may exchange phone numbers with you if they like you, and accept a (non-BF) date, with mutually no expectations of sex.

[maxal]

Says harlequinbkk:

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Posters on this board have often described the 'hardening' of a girl working in a bar; they meet the sweet, innocent thing, fresh off the bus from Issan as she starts working as a bargirl. Then they see her a year or two later; she has a mercenary look in her eye, dresses provocatively, wears heavy makeup, etc.

 

Well, perhaps what is happening here to the male customer is an equivalent process.

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harlequinbkk,

I never thought about it from our/my perspective? I do feel like I've "hardened" a bit myself. By no means, do I feel its sad or tragic- just a fact of my on-going experiences with TGs in the LOS. It would be sad if I didn't LEARN from my mistakes.

 

Regarding JJsushi comments and you feeling he "could have done it with a bit more compassion," give it a rest man. We are all big boys and girls here. Someone that expresses their passion over a subject and articulates it well shouldn't be dogged. Besides, its great to read the different tones board members give off from their posts. I often wonder how closely it matches them while speaking in person? Good stuff!

[khunsanuk]

Hi,

 

"Who said I've ever dated from Soi 33.

Going with a BG is IMO not a date but a commercial agreement."

Guess it is a matter of perspective.

 

Sanuk!

 

[Shit-Spattered Dog]

Says jjsushi:

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Says harlequinbkk:

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JJshshi,

 

You are being too harsh. It is entirely possible that a less experienced and cynical man would have assumed the woman was not a prostitute. Wallet was unsure in this situation so he asked for advice on this board. No need to bust his chops over it.

 

If anything, this story makes me feel a bit sad. This kind of thing happens often enough, and pretty soon a man can't enjoy physical intimacy with a lady without thinking how much it is going to cost him.

 

Harlequin

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Okay, let's put perspective on this situation because you are clearly seeing this with some hellified super rose colored binoculars.

 

Wallet meets a chick at a KFC and that same night he shags her thinking that she is a GTG.

 

Let me ask you to place the scenario in your home country and short of being a celebrity or a pornstar what chick is going to screw you or any stranger the same night after meeting you in KFC? Would you honestly think that she fit the standard definition of a "good girl"?

 

I have had some one night stands in college and other places picking chicks up in dance clubs or other entertainment venues but those events always had the element of alcohol and the intent to shag by both parties. I have never nor do I know of a guy who meets a chick in a grocery store, shopping mall or KFC and then a few hours later they are banging away. That only happens IMO in pornos and Penthouse letters.

 

Back to reality for you and Wallet. His scenario takes place in a shopping mall in Pattaya Thailand. A mall that is FAMOUS for farangs meeting prostitutes. He shags her the first night and then fools himself into thinking she is the standard punter's definition of a "GTG". He then gets pissed because she asked for food and taxi money? Give me a break.

 

HBB what in the world do you find so sad about this story? The fact that Wallet fooled himself into thinking he had free sex based on mutual attraction and got indignant because he felt like he was fooled by the young lady? Your killing me with that sappy rationale.

 

The trully sad thing is that you have a situation with a guy that got his ego bruised. He decided he didn't want to wait for the girl's sister and he wanted to take off, when the realization struck him that the chick could be a freelancer he responded by denying her 300-600bt for food and taxi. I stand by my opinion of that being a cheap low class act on his part and I am "sugarcoating" my words.

 

The fact that he is going to see her again tells me that he is not as pissed as he says he is. He should be more pissed at himself for fooling himself about the situation. Instead he blames the chick for "sugarcoating" the situation.

Where is the personal accountability on his part? Instead of doing the right thing he reacts like a petulant child by punishing her.

 

BTW- we still don't know if the chick is a legitimate frelancer or that Wallet simply assumed she was because she requested TAXI and FOOD money.

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Mybe Walletss is just inexperience at dating GTG.?

I sure as hell know that I am, dating non-Bg. I have also made ( verb ) sending some money to a semi-GTG. We were ( are ) dating, she got sick, when to hospital (3,000B.)

I found out back at home but yet to send monies. I know because of the things we did that my selfessness help lead to her getting sick, yet I sit here typing instead of phoning her to offer to pay her hospital bill.

Anyone know how western union works?

 

Shit.

[shotover]

"If I date a girl (BG or GTG is not so relevant here, although I don't date BG's), . . . My offer is not related to having sex though. I don't expect that on a 1st, 2nd, or pehaps any date. Sex may happen after awhile, but only with complete mutual consent."

 

Your wife is cool with this? I'm not judging or assuming, just curious.

[harlequinbkk]

[color:"red"] Someone that expresses their passion over a subject and articulates it well shouldn't be dogged. [/color]

 

Fair enough, Maxel, to express your passion, as long as it doesn't intimidate posters from asking legitimate questions for fear of getting flamed.

 

Harlequin

[Guest]

>>>I should like to add that in fact its possible to go on a "normal" date with a soi 33 girl. Many of them don't go easily with customers (for sex anyway) but several of them may exchange phone numbers with you if they like you, and accept a (non-BF) date, with mutually no expectations of sex.<<<

 

i don't know, i am not really mr. experienced in the soi 33 bars, but the one time i was there i had real difficulties to get the hand of that lass out of me pants. my mate, who ordered those bottles of tequila did some very serious petting in there. dunno, but i did not really have the impression of that place being any better than some sleazepot apart from the prizes and the decor.

another good friend had once (when he was still rich...) all of the female staff of one of those painter bars naked (and more...) inside the bar.

and chatting with lasses the one time i was there, i had the same conversations about the riceharvest and ja maa i seem to have in every bar in bangkok, and the same old issarn accent.

[JJsushi]

Says harlequinbkk:

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[color:"red"] Someone that expresses their passion over a subject and articulates it well shouldn't be dogged.

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Fair enough, Maxel, to express your passion, as long as it doesn't intimidate posters from asking legitimate questions for fear of getting flamed.

 

Harlequin

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I think your reaching quite a bit HBB and I mean really stretching. There is no way I intimidated Wallet as is evident by his reponses. Are you suggesting that my criticism may have reduced him to tears and he would go running for his mother? I believe that he is a man that understands the ramifications of public posting. We all do and we take the good reponses along with the bad.

 

That is the purpose of bulletin boards to express oneself in some manner. I was critical of his method and I expressed my opinion on it. I did not flame him by calling him an unsuitable name or attacking his overall character. I kept my criticism on topic and pertinent to the scenario.

 

People are very familiar with my posting style on this board,some like it and others may think I am an ass(an opening for a smart assed Bibblies comment). :: So be it because I have the same opinions of others.

 

There is no need for me to be "extra sensitive" because my commentary was not out of line. Maybe you forget that this is a male dominated forum and not some ladies tea and etiquette social club where we coddle each other and only talk about niceties. I think the majority here like to express their strong opinions without flaming and they in turn accept the same. Take some time and notice the difference between flaming the poster and attacking the post. I think am pretty consistent with that.