jonjon058 Posted October 8, 2006 Report Share Posted October 8, 2006 How do you help a friend when they fall for one of these bar girls? I know someone in that situation. Relative newbie to the scene. Already divorced his wife over this girl and now is working on getting her into the US. I suppose I could be wrong about her but given how they met and the 20 year age difference I just don't see a happy ending to this. Anybody been in this situation? Do you just say nothing and hope for the best? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rickfarang Posted October 8, 2006 Report Share Posted October 8, 2006 I would not interfer with him beyond the occasional discussion. Its his life and he's (supposedly) an adult. Don't nag him or he will turn away from you, and then he won't have you as a friend when he needs it most: When the whole thing quietly blows up in his face. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Torneyboy Posted October 8, 2006 Report Share Posted October 8, 2006 How do you help a friend when they fall for one of these bar girls? I know someone in that situation. Relative newbie to the scene. Already divorced his wife over this girl and now is working on getting her into the US. I suppose I could be wrong about her but given how they met and the 20 year age difference I just don't see a happy ending to this. Anybody been in this situation? Do you just say nothing and hope for the best? Does he need help? Has he sked you for advice at all?....why cant it work and he be happy others have made it work...several on this board... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Old Hippie Posted October 8, 2006 Report Share Posted October 8, 2006 Assuming he lost 1/2 or most or all of his shit in the divorce, what does he have to lose? STAY out of it. It could work out. And if it lasts longer than the 3 years or so that most marrages do, then it is statistically a successful marrage, and you are wrong...let them be. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
.. Posted October 8, 2006 Report Share Posted October 8, 2006 Damn. Here I am ready to critique literature. I thought this thread to be about our own C. Wow's literary masterpiece, or bound toilet paper (depends upon who you ask)... Cheers, SD PS - OP, I agree with the rest, after a few times trying to "do the right thing." Leave it alone. No good will come of any meddling. Just try to be there to pick up the pieces if he is a good friend (and she a scammer). Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
samak Posted October 8, 2006 Report Share Posted October 8, 2006 cowards! not to help your friend and keep him out of troubles! maybe tell him some stories about the major pitfalls some other fellow farang got into. after all he is a newbie and might not know! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
.. Posted October 8, 2006 Report Share Posted October 8, 2006 cowards! not to help your friend and keep him out of troubles!maybe tell him some stories about the major pitfalls some other fellow farang got into. after all he is a newbie and might not know! Been there, done that, got the T-shirt. All the times I did it nearly (or did) cost me friendships because I "did not understand that 'she was different'!" Nope, the most I say now is "are you sure that's what you want to do?" The answer is 100% "yes," so I say "up to you," sigh, and move to the next subject. I'm happy that you have not been tried like this before... Cheers, SD Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
samak Posted October 8, 2006 Report Share Posted October 8, 2006 if he does not listen to your advise and even jeopardize friendship, he is not worth to be your friend! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nervous_Dog Posted October 8, 2006 Report Share Posted October 8, 2006 No - men in lust/love forget friends, when they wake up they go back to being good buddies again Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Torneyboy Posted October 8, 2006 Report Share Posted October 8, 2006 Love is blind Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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