simie Posted April 3, 2008 Report Share Posted April 3, 2008 I did'nt pay any sin sot when I married my wife. I was'nt asked and the subject never raised by the wife or her parents. We've only ever done the Amphur wedding, never got around to the monk wedding in village. If we ever do we will probably put up a bit of cash and gold for her parents sake and would get most back afterwards. I've been to the village weddings of various of her brothers and cousins and gold and cash was on display (can't remember how much) but most given back after the wedding. Simie. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Old Hippie Posted April 3, 2008 Author Report Share Posted April 3, 2008 Hi, On of my brother-in-laws got married about 2 years ago. Both he and his bride work construction and were in their early 40's. He paid a sin sot of 2,000 Baht Think the younger brother-in-law paid ~10K when marrying his wife (early 20s, no kids, no previous marriages). Sanuk! Ok, so what would be expected from a Farang for the same girls? My guess is, a lot more. I see some who say paying Sin Sot shows they respect and understand the culture, I feel I understand the culture enough to resent Sin Sot. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
simie Posted April 3, 2008 Report Share Posted April 3, 2008 OH, I've no problem if rich Chinese Thais or Isaan farmers want to pay the respective amount of sin sot to each other. The thing that bugs me (and I assume yourself?) is when sin sot is deemed not payable for the likes of ex bargirls with a Thai ex husband and a kid or two. But some greedy families think it right for a farang to pay a relatively huge sum in the same circumstances. Simie. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Faustian Posted April 4, 2008 Report Share Posted April 4, 2008 HH, My girlfriend is chinese-thai, white skinned, uni educated, upper middle class family. It's going to be a lot. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jai-dee Posted April 4, 2008 Report Share Posted April 4, 2008 I paid the princely sum of 10,000 baht sinsot for my wife. OK, it was just an engagement, not a real wedding (we married in OZ), and only relatives were invited, and the money was spent for food and drink. Do you think it was too much? She was 23 at the time, GTG, virgin, but poor farmer's daughter. Initially when she brought up the subject of sinsot she was aiming for something like 300,000 baht. The sight of me ROTFL discouraged her from pursuing the issue. Later she told me that after the ceremony everybody laughed at her - where did you find such a poor farang. They have apparently stopped laughing a year later when her parents built themselves a new house. So yes, I paid my 300,000 in the end, but that was because I made a promise to her and her parents really needed it - the old house was just about to collapse. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
passingthru69 Posted April 4, 2008 Report Share Posted April 4, 2008 When my wife and I married last Nov. I gave the family 6k in U.S. Dollars, plus my wife had a necklace of 1 baht that she went and traded in for 2 baht. She used money from her account to pay the difference. 2 days later I or We got the 6 k back. Flash cameras going off and all ahowing the money and gold. My wifes family gave me 1 baht necklace and her a 1 baht ring. Everybody happy and they had good face. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
khunsanuk Posted April 4, 2008 Report Share Posted April 4, 2008 Hi, "Ok, so what would be expected from a Farang for the same girls?" I'm not sure you could get a farang crazy enough to take the wife of my younger brother-in-law. You would have to pay me - substantially - in order for me to even consider fucking her, let alone marry. Never met the other guy's wife, we didn't attend the wedding (only heard about it a few days later) and the 'marriage' only lasted a few weeks. Sanuk! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hugh_Hoy Posted April 4, 2008 Report Share Posted April 4, 2008 HH, My girlfriend is chinese-thai, white skinned, uni educated, upper middle class family. It's going to be a lot. Just a heads up on this one. Buddy of mine married a Thai gal with the same exact background. He got away with a new washer and dryer. That was about 10 years ago, so maybe he'd have to throw in a new vaccum cleaner today? (Yeah...a lot of baht and gold on the table...mostly from a collection of immediate family and later returned. All for pomp, I guess.) Good luck. HH Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Old Hippie Posted April 4, 2008 Author Report Share Posted April 4, 2008 "...The thing that bugs me (and I assume yourself?) is when sin sot is deemed not payable for the likes of ex bargirls with a Thai ex husband and a kid or two. But some greedy families think it right for a farang to pay a relatively huge sum in the same circumstances. Simie..." Yep, this is also part of what I don't like about the practice. As I said, in many cases (as in NOT IN ALL) it becomes a shakedown. Jai Dee wrote: "...I paid the princely sum of 10,000 baht sinsot for my wife. OK, it was just an engagement, not a real wedding (we married in OZ), and only relatives were invited, and the money was spent for food and drink. Do you think it was too much? She was 23 at the time, GTG, virgin, but poor farmer's daughter. Initially when she brought up the subject of sinsot she was aiming for something like 300,000 baht. The sight of me ROTFL discouraged her from pursuing the issue. Later she told me that after the ceremony everybody laughed at her - where did you find such a poor farang. They have apparently stopped laughing a year later when her parents built themselves a new house. So yes, I paid my 300,000 in the end, but that was because I made a promise to her and her parents really needed it - the old house was just about to collapse..." Did you pay too much? relative term I guess, but I'd say no. And good negotiating on your part, going from 300,000 down to 10,000 bht! As for giving the family a house or what not later on, I have no real problem with this at all, nor even a monthly allowance to them, or paying for sibling's school etc. As I said, my main objective is when it becomes a "pay it or you can't get married/I won't marry you" type situation. This apparently was not your situation. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LookieLookie Posted April 4, 2008 Report Share Posted April 4, 2008 paying sin sot is for suckers. end of story :thumbdown: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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